It has been a while..yah i know…it was a crazy December…I’ve been very (i mean it…) busy…I actually got a lot of things to share but first things first…
So its new year..(i know it’s kinda late to discuss this…) and i am sure we all have the so called New Year’s resolution which we obviously always failed to accomplish. But guess what….last January 18, I attended the 3rd parents’ assembly in my daughters school. I was deeply and honestly moved by what the school head shared to us. Yes it’s in the title… “Pope Francis’ Top Ten Things To Do in 2014”..and i wanna share it with you with a little of myself too..
a morning view of Turi Beach in Batam Indonesia
1. Don’t gossip
Merriam – Webster defines it as a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others. Well you see..if we only focus on our own problems, our own concerns instead of worrying about others concerns, then, maybe, just maybe the world would be a better place. After all, small fights… little arguments..petty quarrels…these are by products of gossiping…spreading intimate and sensational facts about others, whether these facts are true…still it is none of our business to talk about it…Better yet…say…if you have nothing good to say..shut up…
people come, people go
we laugh, we smile, in all we do
we share, we care, all is fair
in silence though tempted, we stare
about others and their nightmare
we become the dreaded gossiper….
para – sailing activity in Turi Beach
2. Finish your meal
It may sound ridiculous, but true…how many times have we left a table with an unfinished meal? How many times have we skipped a meal because we are on a diet? How many times have we not touched our food because we don’t like it? How many times have we ordered a food and didn’t finish it? If we could only be kind to every single food that we have then maybe, just maybe, we would be able to help others who are hungry.
sumptuous meals served all over
food at its best like no other
sadly, we scorn, we skipped
it does not suit our palate
others are hungry, craving for more
so don’t be a picky, don’t be a spoiler
3. make time for others
well time is gold..time is essential …and so on and so forth…we don’t have time…we are busy…and there goes our long list of reasons ..
But really, we have to make sure we have time for other people. we have time for our love ones. When I resigned from my work few years back, I realized that in order for us to spend quality time with the people we love ( and well, even those we might not love at all) we have to give up important personal things. My family used to complain about me not having enough time for them because i was working. Working then, wasn’t really something that we needed as a family because we may not be filthy rich but we’re living a generously beautiful life…so working then was just a personal gratification so to say…it took me sometime to even realize that….and now that i have plenty of time for my family, i am also able to share the remaining time i have for others…. i started caring… i started sharing…i never had the chance to attend at any of my children’s parents’ meetings back then ( sometimes i do, but most of the time i don’t…i was busy)..now…i am able to share my time to the same community and the same people who are my partners in nurturing my children…i found it wonderful… a blessing actually…so it isn’t too late yet…look around maybe your neighbor needs you…maybe your child’s school is in need of your service…maybe someone needs your presence…it can’t be so hard
if i would have one magical wish
i’d travel back in time and relish
visit every place once more
enjoy the details on its wonder
heed more to what others say
listen to every word utter and stay
love more and nurture
embrace each moment and treasure
the annual family Christmas party for the less fortunate children
this is an annual event which has been going on for so long and has been our way of not only sharing what we have but at the same time sharing a moment with them..meeting them…playing with them…singing with them…
4. Meet the poor in the flesh
we may have been generously donating to every charitable foundations there is…we may have been responding to every call for help we hear…we may have been praying for all the victims of calamities and misfortunes….but, have we meet any of them? have we shared more than the usual money that we can share? do we know any of them?…maybe its time we go and see them in person…we can start with the old lady in our neighborhood..the one we usually share our extra dish with…
money when shared is called donation
talents when shared is called expression
skills when shared is called contribution
presence when shared is called devotion
p.s. in case you missed it..devotion is the fact or state of being ardently dedicated and loyal….
6. stop judging others
Well now, there goes… i am sure something that most of us are guilty of….yes, we all have the bad habit of judging others even for the good that they do…we just love to share a piece of our mind (a gentle way of judging) in anything about anybody…
What about we start by disciplining ourselves not to say, comment, suggest, on anything about anybody we deemed unfit for something…
So hard…right? yah i know..it is..
do not judge people by their conviction
nor by their opinion
judge them not by their presence
or by their appearance
hold back and say
the nicest you know just try
7. befriend those who disagree
We only love those who love us…we only care for those who care for us…we are only friends to those who constantly agree with us…what about befriending those who usually gives us “high blood pressure”? …maybe you will see their point..or maybe they will see your point too…and maybe somewhere along the way you both will meet half way….
friendship isn’t about who care and never left
it’s about who left and but returned and recollect
friendship isn’t about who understands and believes
it’s about who disagree but have faith and trusts
photo taken by my daughter during their elementary retreat
7. make commitments, such as marriage
We fear the idea of getting ourselves into any commitments, tasks, or obligations….we are afraid that we may perform poorly if given the task…we are scared to act upon our obligations…we doubt our capacity to fully commit and dedicate…
Maybe, it’s about time we stood firmly on the ground and commit on anything.. you don’t have to rush up and get married…if you’re single and living away from your parents then maybe you can commit to visit them every weekend…if you are a student, then maybe you can commit and become a student leader…if you are an employee, then maybe you can start up to commit and be the best employee…if you are a teacher then maybe you can start and commit to submit your requirements on time or as scheduled…there are other forms of commitments…it doesn’t really have to be as complicated and as life changing as marriage..commitments may come in small and big packages..open it and embrace fully…
commitment is fidelity,
it is devotion filled with loyalty
commitment is steadfastness
a dedication in faithfulness
a photo shoot of last December’s Musicale “The Guest” the actress showing off a promise sign…a promise to commit and the be best friend forever
9. Make it a habit to ask the Lord
I have been very open about my spirituality…i told you i am not the usual religious type of middle age woman.. however, thanks to my children who’s spirituality is far better than mine…and if there is one thing i learned from them..that is simply ….ask the Lord for even the simplest thing you do…they say, sometimes things don’t happen the way we want it because, we failed to seek the Lord’s opinion on the matter…things go exactly well if we do it with God’s permission…
you ask and you gain information
you inquire and you get confirmation
you solicit and you obtain what you desire
you request and you receive with great pleasure
you ask the Lord and He will never categorize your request
you will receive for He know what you need, its a must.
Botanical Garden, Singapore..Happiness is everywhere….
10. Be happy
How many times have we been feeling so down and lonely over something that actually don’t deserve our attention? How many times have we felt so bad because we don’t get the things we wanted? Many times …i am sure…but, how many times have we been happy for making it through the day? How many times have we been joyful for seeing a child smile? ..How many times have we been glad for the beautiful flowers that bloom on our backyard? Few times…i know…why not we start looking around our house and see for ourselves the many reasons to be happy? happiness is not always about good fortune, prosperity, contentment and joy…most of the time happiness lies on the other side of the world..the silver lining…so to say..
Happiness is a brush of wretched
a moment in daze and confused
happiness is a touch of solitude
a time of being alone in fortitude
happiness is a silence in despair
an occasion to be strong in prayer
life is difficult i know…it is even harsh at times….people can be unreasonable too…they may even cause you a heart – attack..experiences can be nightmares…it may even sometimes be overwhelmingly sad and lonely….but you and i both know that if we could only make the best out of even the worst scenario in life, the worst person around, the worst experience we have then maybe, just maybe…life wouldn’t be as complicated as we know it now…easier said than done, i know..i too have my moments (many moments) when i felt like the universe is conspiring against me…i wanna give – up…but every time i felt that way…i manage to kick back…look around ..see myself in the mirror..and gotcha…i see a lot of reasons to go on…let me try one…when others are dying to go on a diet and exercise just to be fit…me? i diet and exercise but i don’t need to kill myself though..i am by genes gifted with a slender figure..when others are trying so hard to budget what they have…well me i am at times worrying what to buy and how to spend it…of course this is petty..and i do not only take pleasure in something that i don’t have and others don’t have…i take pleasure too at even the smallest details…like this one ..you just don’t know how happy i am at the moment writing…finally i got to write back after so long…this morning the sun finally came out…ahhhhh after weeks of rain ….and finally i thank God for that one moment i went to attend at my daughter’s parents’ assembly…i was able to listen and share with you this piece of wonderful information..