How Much Longer

How Much Longer
You lost your voice
Upon his roaring thunder
Of growing ego

As you lost your consciousness
Over his viscious hands.
How much longer of the sound you
need to bear deaf in the truth of torture and agony?
You lost your thought
In every scorn you hear
From the sound
Of his nasty outrage
And abomination.
How much longer of the blunders you need to take to run away and seek for help?
You lost your smile
For every word
He utters is a knife
That cuts off the very essence
Of your being
How much longer of a smile can you hold
To unfold the truth that you are suffering silently?


Written for VJ’s weekly challenge

Dear victims of VIOLENCE speak up use your language to be heard and to get help
Dedicated to all women who are silent  victims of violence. SPEAK UP.

“We need language to tell us who we are, how we feel, what we’re capable of – to explain the pains and glory of our existence.”



Inspired by my recent visit to Old Town Ipoh, where i happened to drop by in a shop, of all its proceeds will be used  to help/assist victims of violence particularly women.


Violence includes domestic abuse, sexual assault, verbal and emotional abuse.  Violence and abuse can cause physical and emotional problems that will last long even after the abuse happened. If you’ve experienced violence or abuse, it is never your fault, and you can get help. There are several organizations worlwide that aims and help victims of abuse.

In particular this shop is helping the “Perak Women for Women Society” organization. So if ever you are around this area visit the shop and your single purchase can go a long way.

The United Nations defines violence against women as “any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual, or mental harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life.”

67 Replies to “How Much Longer”

  1. Mich, this is a very important post. Every word is a drop of truth. There is an ocean of violence outthere. I too have suffered this, and then worked within the field. It is a scourge. Yet many feel so much shame and fear if they speak up aboutwhat is happening to them.

    1. That’s so true Loraine. The problem with victims, is that they are afraid to tell the trurh, ashamed to be humiliated and sometimes they believe that keeping their silence is far better than speaking up..i wish to create awareness among women…there is nothing wrong with speaking up

      1. Absolutely. I think some of the problem lies in women blaming themselves for it, because of course the perpetrator blames them continually. “You made me do it” is a common excuse, but those words go deep into a woman. And to be honest, some women who speak up do get labelled by society. It’s hard mich. i am speaking of what it is like in England.

      2. I understand Loraine. From where i am violence is a major concern/issue not even among women but goes down to the children too. And you are right at some point the victim refuse to speak.up because somehow they blame their own self for their misfortune.

      3. Yes, the same here too re the children. Forgive me if I am wrong, but are you in India? I don’t know if I saw that in your blog sometime

      4. I am currently in Malaysia Loraine and in most Asian coutries women are said to be submissive..yes it is true and correct but their should always be a point where submission ends…i just dont know what and how we should deal with this…but i guess for now i will begin by this simple post

      5. I am so glad you made this post. Yes I understand about women in Asian countries, and I know that there is a lot against them speaking out or getting away from it. I feel so for these women. Keep writing it mich. it is a voice that needs to be heard 😊

      6. May I Reblog it mich? I will tell people to put any “likes” on your blog and not mine (not that this is something to like, but you know what I mean) but usually people ignore that. But I would like people to read this. Your poem is so important and so well done

  2. thank you for highlighting this amazing cause Mich. any bit helps, not just monetary but the awareness. violence is a silently cruel and in Asian societies it is not taken seriously or women are urged not to make a fuss over small matters. we live in such a masculine society, yet it is not just the physical violence that hurts, as you mentioned psychological trauma has lasting effects too. Bagus Mich! i am so proud to see you champion this in my country. Hope you got a chance to walk by Concubine Lane with the pretty umbrellas too!

    1. I had the best time in walking along Concubine lane Gina as you may see in my previous post. And this shop really touched my heart. I felt like i have to do something. I wonder how many silent victoms are out there waiting for their voices to be heard with the hope that one day their sufferings will end.

      1. i will need to check that out next, my reader does not always show all posts for some reason.

        yes one day when the power is no longer in the hands of those who chose to abuse, one day all women and children and those living in fear, will be loose from these bonds.

  3. Poignant. The abuse that happens to so many women occurs before they have the language to speak up in their defence. I know my first encounter with the male genitalia was sexual assault. Revulsion, shock, and trauma overshadowed any attempt to disclose the crime. Thanks for this.

  4. We had a friend who luckily was able to make it out of a toxic relationship.
    Unfortunately for the want of (and she got more than she bargained for) money owed… she let him in… one last time.

    1. Oh, i think that’s another thing too…womes should be at least able to provide for themselves to be able to walk away in case the relationship becomea abusive..

      1. It becomes a different issue when an independent woman invites trouble into her own home and space. Kicking out the rouge takes courage too.

      2. I agree Jules..from where i am..we have a new law protecting the rights of women and children …however, it has also become a problem too for most men whose partners simply wann get away of the relationship and or of wanting more money..

      3. That is again another sad reality too Jules. Men can now be victims of abusive women and with the current outrage for campaign against violence these women on the contrary used this to their advantage..

  5. you touched our hearts just as the cause touched yours!

    If it was so easy to leave it would not be so prolific .. here they slaughter their family and that fear of death ensures their enslavement!

      1. I have worked with these families and the love and abuse runs deep. I’ve got those women and children out while the police held the guy at bay and I’ve been there a week later when he is in tears, vowing his love. sincerely apologising and they fold … it’s a constant cycle that’s getting harder to break!

      2. Oh, wow…that must really be very hard to witness Kate ..

        And my heart always, always goes out to the children who are mostly the victims of these abuse….these children will someday be the abuser themselves or the one keeping silent in an abusive relationship if not provided with the right amount of intervention..

      3. the repercussions of living in such families are shocking and we don’t have the resources to support the kids properly or get the women out safely!

  6. So much power and empathy in your words. And I agree with everyone – violence towards women (and children) is so epidemic. Women from infancy are subjected to the whims of aggressors and society tells them to stay quiet and bear this burden. Your words definitely need a wider audience – maybe it’s something you can send to that women’s group for them to use in advertising, etc. ?

  7. Gender based violence is a scourge on humanity. It flies in the face of most every religion yet many point to that very religion to justify it and to support it. I applaud your poem and support your efforts. Even here in the US violence against women occurs…

  8. It is imperative to speak up. Unfortunately, one must be safe to do so and that is often not the case. Judges who give a slap on the wrist to a convicted rapist, a sitting President who brags about grabbing women and more… I’ve worked in the field too long and I am also a survivor.

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