Life’s Lesson #discernment#FridayFun#thankfulness

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Life is not a game of chance,

nor a lot of great circumstances.

Life is not even a bed of roses,

nor a bag of chocolates.

Life is indeed a matter of good choices

and how to make the best ones.

 

 

 

My choices in life may have not been really the best ones. I must honestly say I have had my own share of bad choices. But as my life progresses I was able to turn those bad choices into the best ones thus making me the best possible person I am.

My mother taught me the basics of discernment. It was with her that I realized that things don’t just happen, but it happens because we make it happen no matter how much we intellectualized or rationalized that it is beyond our capacity as human beings. But she said….that is why we were gifted with the power to discern. The dictionary defines discernment as to the ability to reveal insights and understand.  Exactly why we need to empower ourselves with discernment. This will usher us to make the right choices.

My father, on the other hand, has taught me so many things about how to live my life and how to affect other people’s lives as well. He is a very kind and generous, and compassionate man; but when it comes to helping other people, this is what he has to say always “give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime”. 

It is with this thought that I go by how I help people. I can extend help once or twice or okay, let’s say thrice but more than that, my father used to say, is too much of being generous, and instead of simply extending help, I find ways to provide them with a sustainable way of making money or earning income. But sadly, some people don’t like to work or simply would rely on “help” or “aid”. This attitude is very common among us Filipinos.

We are very family-oriented; that we are obliged to help even our distant relatives or friends. It seemed though that because of this idea, many people abuse the culture of “help” in the Philippines, that when you at some point get tired of always helping you become the family’s devil’s advocate. Relatives and friends will be mad at you for not being able to help them. It is very frustrating because some people are even being ungrateful. While you work so hard to make money; they wait for you to simply feed them and help them.

This should also be part of our considerations when making choices in life. Because as we get older and become more successful others will be envious of your success and they will expect you to help them all the time.

 

1. I choose FAITH

I am not a very religious person. I am not even the type you see in the church all the time. I am not the one who also memorizes every single prayer there is. I also am not the typical middle-age woman in a veil going to mass. But I say, I choose to believe in GOD. I choose to believe that HE is powerful and thus HE is responsible for all that I am.

2. I choose HAPPINESS

As I have mentioned, life is not a bed of roses. It can be bad, it can be sad, it can be lonely, it can be worst……but if we choose happiness no amount of bad, lonely, sad, worst situation can make us reject the fact that life is what we make it after all…

We all surely have gone through a lot of rough, bumpy roads…who didn’t? but if we only learn to see the good in even the worst situation….LIFE would be GREAT… remember, happiness is simply a choice; loneliness is simply optional.

3. I choose THANKFULNESS

An ungrateful heart always leaves us feeling miserable. If we carry on with ungratefulness, no matter what we have, no matter what happens we would – it would never always be enough.

4. I choose POSITIVENESS

Blessed Laura Vicuna said, “smile always and suffer silently”…Her life is a wonderful example of how someone could turn a negative situation into something positive; an example of cheerfulness amidst heartaches.

We don’t have to be saints to be positive. As they say, if we only see life “like a glass full rather than half empty” then we would have the power to change our lives for the better for good.

5. I choose AWARENESS

Awareness in everything that we do, awareness in everything that we can’t do, awareness in every talent that we have, and awareness in the fact that we were all made unique.

We need to be aware of every situation we are in and what led us into it; it is by then that we see if we are leading towards sin…or towards a life anchored in our faith

How about you?…

Linking to kate’s Friday – Fun: Fishing https://aroused.blog/2020/06/27/friday-fun-fishing/

Published by michnavs

Philippine-born Michelle Navajas, currently residing in Malaysia. Michelle authored the book “After – Rain Skies: A Million Stars” for PWW during their Million Stars campaign. Graduated with a Master of Education majoring in English in the Philippines, Michelle was a former college professor, teaching literature, speech & oral communication, creative writing, drama, and theatre arts. Michelle is active in her writing profession and works as a freelance creative writer. Michelle passionately blogs at www.michnavs.wordpress.com, where you can find her prose and poetry on love, life, motherhood, and her advocacy on abuse and violence. A published author on Spillwords NYC https://spillwords.com/what-if-snowflakes-dont-fall-in-winter/ Her poem “Again” is published on three platforms, on MEDIUM -an International Writers and Readers Space, AFRICA WRITERS CARAVAN, and at WOMAWORDS LITERARY PRESS. kindly go check the following links –https://womawordsliterarypress.home.blog/2020/06/29/imagining-life-after-the-ravaging-virulent-covid-19-pandemic-a-special-journal/ –https://personalitiesofinspiration.wordpress.com/2020/06/29/imagining-life-after-covid-19-a-womawords-june-edition/

61 thoughts on “Life’s Lesson #discernment#FridayFun#thankfulness

    1. Thanks for the prompt too kate ..your prompt always makes me write this way. Your prompts are very interesting that let say even if i dont fish it can always be associated with life..and i am really enjoying writing it.

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  1. What an amazing post. Life is all about choices. I am totally touched by your bonding with the family. This is an unbreakable thread which will always pull you back to safety. I’m so happy that you have the goodness in you to make this choice. You deserve a life of fulfillment. Truly

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    1. Oh, thank you so much for saying ” you deserve a life of fulfillment”…
      I am a better person because of my parents. They armed me with weapons in life that helps me choose if not the best at least the righrt choices.
      Thank you so muchf🥰

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  2. A perfect post of gratitude Mich. Your parents have taught you to respect the right values in life, I am so glad that you were able to turn a few bad choices into best ones….very few are able to do that. Continue to be the wonderful person you are!! ❤ !

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    1. Thank you Radika for your kind thoughts. My parents are not perfect but they sure were able to mold us into better persons and i wil forever be grateful for that 🥰🥰🥰

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  3. Discernment is one of the most important tools we have it helps us to avoid certain situations. It is not being judgmental but it allows us to draw on our past experiences to access situations placed before us.

    The other points you raise are equally important and all work together to make for a balanced life. Gratefulness for every little thing in life all adds up to the goodness we receive.

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  4. Wonderful, Mich! Powerful and important! 🙂
    Your parents words/beliefs have lived on in you. They will live on in your children. ETC.
    AND they have positively impacted everyone reading this post! 🙂

    The five things you listed, I have tried to live my life by those choices.

    I always try to choose faith over fear and doubt, joy over despair and grumpiness ( 🙂 ), thankfulness over complaining and selfishness, positiveness over negativeness and hopelessness, awareness over ignorance and apathy.

    I try. 🙂 (We’ve all made not-so-good choices. And we can all do better.)

    I say joy rather than happiness, because I’ve found happiness is fleeting, conditional, and rooted in external circumstances. Joy is a choice. I’ve felt joy at times I should not have felt it. It is from deep within…cultivated internally…and isn’t dependent on anything or anyone. 🙂

    Helping is others is good, and we should…but there can reach a point that helping can become enabling in some situations. So we must be careful.
    (((HUGS))) ❤ 🙂
    PS…sorry for my l-o-n-g comments! You always write about THE best subjects and you not only feed me (emotionally, spiritually, etc), you inspire me and get me thinking. 🙂 Thank you! 🙂

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    1. Oh, i love you for always sharing your thoughts here. It makes me feel good about what i write when i get to receive feedbacks like yours. I dont normally write long posts but when i do it is always rooted upon how i was raised by my parents and the prompt usually of kate stirs that.
      Keep leaving such lovely thoughts and commenta we can all learn about. I am so glad that my thoughts resonated on you.

      As what Mia in Princess Diaries said ” then my thoughts and the thoughts of people smarter than me would be much better heard. And just maybe those thoughts could be turned into actions.”

      We hope our good thoughts will be turned into an action

      Thank you Carolyn..sending you lots of love💝💝💝💝💝💝

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  5. Super like this! Thank you, Ms. Navajas! Don’t know if you still remember me. I was once your student in English 101 at Colegio San Agustin-Bacolod (Accountancy class). You are part of what and where I am now. Miss you! Hope to catch up with you soon! ♥️

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    1. Hello Karl, od course i remember you..thank you so much for dropping by. Go check out my poem pulished in an international literary journal and my book as well.
      Thank you so much Karl, send my love to all your classmates.💝💝💝

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      1. That’s wrong na we should never judge someone for the choices they make we don’t know the circumstances in which they chose what they chose, right.Also that’s how we learn by making mistakes and wrong choices

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    1. Aw, thank you so much.. we are so caught up with all the crazines around the world today that we have forgotten to choose to live for the moment and continue to enjoy life even inspite of everything..

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  6. Thanks wholeheartedly for your marvellous & inspirational description of life, Michnavs ! I am especially touched by your meaningful lines” Life is indeed a matter of good choices & how to make the best ones “Keep it up.All the best!

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  7. What a great post. I loved what you chose and I for one loved the fact that you chose to be positive. With everything that’s happening in this world right now, that’s the one thing that I’m trying to be is positive. There is a spark of hope amongst the chaos in this world, we just need to stay the course.

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    1. Thank you so much Mark for the affirmation. It makes me happy and fulfilled to read comments like this.
      Our world is in so much trouble right now and it is with hope that we all believe something good will come out after this troubles.
      Keep safe in there my friend..🤗🤗

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    1. I agree Zak…we have similarities in terms of family orientation. Extending help to friends or relatives in need is by all means okay; but at the same time we should also teach them to acquire skills to earn a reasonable income and be financially independent…some people dont get it though…

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