Erin’s Story

 

Things that break on earth don’t reach the clouds above us. Burning villages don’t change the schedule of sunsets. And stars remain stars, no matter how much land we destroy.

But when the sky loses all of its lights and unleashes a thunderstorm, everything drowns.

Erin was a vibrant, happy, and joyful woman. To her many boyfriends, all of whom mistreated her verbally and physically, she was patient. To Sufi, she was a great human being and an even better friend.

To herself, Erin was unfair.

She grew up believing she only deserved the kind of love that did nothing but hurt her. And Sufi watched her pick partner after partner that mentally burned her out and repeatedly destroyed her heart.

Still, Erin’s aspirations, inspiration, imagination, wonder, dreams, pursuits, creative brilliance, her magic, remained bright as stars on a cloudless evening, always. Until they didn’t.

Abuse is not at all clear cut. But Sufi remembered with perfect clarity when her best friend lost the sparkle in her eyes.

First, the silence. Even though marrying the love of your life should be a nervous, excited, rambunctious affair.

Then, the realization of her colleagues that Erin was living with a man who was comfortable with sending his wife to work with bruises and a black eye.

And the dark understanding of the weight of Erin having a son, and nowhere to go that felt safe enough to risk her husband following them and breaking them worse than he would if they stayed put.

Sufi suffered watching her, but all everyone that genuinely loved Erin could do was love her until she began loving herself enough to see that she too was deserving of better treatment.

It took years, and all their support, and the kind of bravery you only learn while trying to fight through a thunderstorm, but Erin gained the self-respect she needed to leave the one that was drowning her light.

Coming home should be the safest thing we ever do in this life. Where we lay our heads at night should be where monsters will not reach us. And yet, so many find themselves making homes with monsters instead.

 

You can read more of true and inspiring stories of abuse and violence from my book “After Rain Skies”, available via KOBO.COM

18 Comments

  1. Sadje says:

    This is a reminder that we should always be there for our friends and those who need us. But the decision rests with them. Thanks for sharing this very moving story Mich

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thanks so much Sadje, we need to remind ourselves with the fact that we have to be with our friends…

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      1. Sadje says:

        Yes, indeed!

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  2. blindzanygirl says:

    So very very sad mich. but I recognise it. Much love to you ❤️

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    1. michnavs says:

      aw, thank you Lorraine… keep safe in there

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      1. blindzanygirl says:

        I am fine thankyou. But this story is so moving and so true for far too many women. Sad face

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      2. michnavs says:

        I know Lorraine and it is still happening especially with the outbreak of pandemic domestic abuse cases have been up..

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      3. blindzanygirl says:

        It is the same here much. It is just awful. People being isolated with abusive partners or spouses. The pandemic has produced the exact right conditions for its happening. Keep posting those stories much. I am unable to get a copy of your book as I tried to a few times and couldn’t. Keep writing about it xx

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      4. michnavs says:

        Thank you so much Lorraine…i will be writing/posting about this, as yes the pandemic is perfect opportunity for violence to happen..

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  3. ivor20 says:

    This is so sad … hard for me to read …

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    1. michnavs says:

      it is Ivor… thank you..

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  4. Very sad and profound story, Mich. Life is like that at times for few people, very difficult. Thanks for the great share.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Kamal😊😊😊

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      1. Always welcome Mich ❤️❤️

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  5. So very sad. Erin’s story tells the story of too many females in our world. 😦
    And things have been even harder during the pandemic. Abused women and children’s lives have been made even more difficult. 😦
    Thank you for sharing Erin’s story with us, SweetMich. It is powerful and important! A subject we HAVE to keep talking about!
    We will continue to help those who want to get away from the abuse AND we continue to love and help those (who for many different reasons) can’t make the move just yet.
    (((HUGS))) ❤

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you Carolyn..yes, lockdown has become a perfect opportunity for domestic violence to happen. And i love what you said, while we support and applaud those who took the courage to get away, we continue to love and support those who can’t yet…❤❤❤

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  6. murisopsis says:

    Tragic on several levels. The thing is that until she is ready to leave no amount of “helping” will break the cycle. She has to value herself… It is often the way with alcoholics. Until they are ready to give up drinking no interventions will “stick” and they will always go back to drinking…

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    1. michnavs says:

      I agree Val, the change and the need to change or get out of a situation should come from the victim.
      Thank you so much..

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