Naira’s Story

No one doubts that you’re in pain when you’re walking around bleeding. You’re lucky, if someone believes you’re hurt, without you having to forcibly cut off an arm.

Naira was fine. She was perfect. There wasn’t a scratch on her. She was just about to throw herself off the top of a high-rise, that was all. And what was so special about that?

Everyone had problems. Anyone who thought their problems deserved attention just wasn’t trying hard enough to solve them. Right?

War was hard. Poverty was hard. Going out to break you’re back trying to make money was hard.

Marriage? You couldn’t possibly be complaining about being married. You wanted to be married, didn’t you? Learning your partner’s personality, his tendencies, his flaws. That was your responsibility, wasn’t it?

No one asks for international tensions. No one leaves his mother’s womb asking Allah to make him poor. But you, you made a choice, gave a vow. It was a commitment no one forced you into. You deal with it.

He never even hit you. Why are you unhappy? Others have it worse, Naira. Other women get new bruises every day. Do you see them leaving their husbands? That’s right.

You deal with the yelling. And the things he says. In front of your parents, in front of your brothers and sisters, in front of your co-workers. What was the worst they could do anyway? They were just words.

See, you’re fine. Naira, you’re perfect. Not a scratch on you. In all of ten years, not a bruise on you. And—

You’re tired. And that’s okay. You did everything you could.

It’s time to make yourself well.

All relationships lie somewhere in the middle of healthy and unhealthy at any given time. That’s why it’s important to identify the patterns and behaviors of our own relationships. Because relationships that visit the unhealthy area one too many instances tend to like to stay there.

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17 Comments

  1. Sadje says:

    This is very familiar and sad story! I know someone who went through this thing too.

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    1. michnavs says:

      There are so many Nairas out there Sadje, and it is in her writing her story and the stories of others victims, that i hope we create more platform for awareness…thank you😊

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      1. Sadje says:

        I hope that you are successful with spreading the awareness. Great job.

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      2. michnavs says:

        Thank you Sadje😊

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      3. Sadje says:

        You’re welcome 😊

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  2. VJ Knutson says:

    Not all abuse is physical. I learned that after leaving my children’s father. I’d been emotionally, financially, and psychologically abused for years. No bruises on the outside.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Aw, 😔😔😔 so sorry to hear that VJ, ..and thank you so much for sharing your story with me here..thank you.. ❤❤❤

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      1. VJ Knutson says:

        I appreciate your commitment to women’s stories, Mich.

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      2. michnavs says:

        It has always been what i wanted to do VJ😊

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      3. VJ Knutson says:

        A noble goal.

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  3. This is so well composed and is a sad reality for too many.

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    1. michnavs says:

      I agree, so many Nairas out there😌 thank you so much

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  4. murisopsis says:

    Yes. Many won’t believe the abuse unless there are black eyes and broken bones. The victim blaming and shaming only makes it more difficult to leave and save their lives. They think that the only way out is death….

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    1. michnavs says:

      That is the saddest reality about domestic violence, you need to have bruises and black eye and wounds, and going to court or even seeking for help without those is really close to impossible.

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  5. Thank you for sharing Naira’s important story! Her story/her life will help others.
    I had a friend who went through something too similar. 😦
    We continue to share, teach, raise awareness, help…all of which will change lives for the better.
    Thank you SO VERY MUCH, SweetMich for being a voice, a carer, a teacher, a helper, ETC., to all women! I’m so proud of you! You always encourage and inspire me! 🙂
    (((HUGS))) ❤

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you too always Carolyn for your support..
      I know that we will not witness in our lifetime maybe, the end to the culture abuse and violence but, i know what we do at the moment will have an impact on the lives of the future generation…and i take comfort with that thought..

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      1. I take comfort in that, too.
        The more we help and teach girls (and boys) today, the better their futures will be.

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