Mia @ 18

Nothing beats the pain of losing yourself to somebody you barely even know. Nothing beats the pain of crying when you know it isn’t enough. Nothing beats the pain of wanting to die when you know death may not even be the answer.

Mia was your regular College girl. Pretty, charming, and smart. When everyone else thought it was a blessing, Mia later realized, it was rather a curse. For it was that same pretty and charming face that brought her to her agonizing situation.

Raped at 18.

And was forced to mature at such a young age.

Mia couldn’t actually recall the details anymore. Or maybe she chose to forget. Or maybe, forgetting was her way of coping.

Did forgetting help? Maybe yes, maybe no. One thing was sure though, it helped her moved on.

She intentionally forgot even the face of her perpetrator, the man who took away her innocence, the man who gave her endless nights of crying alone, and the man who at some point made her want to end her life.

But, forgetting helped. And oh, there was one more.

Her silence.

She never spoke about the abuse, to anybody, to anyone.

She kept her silence for so long. And yes, for some reasons and probably by the grace of God, her silence helped her forget and eventually moved on.

Now, years after, she chose to speak up. And why, now? Because she has found her peace now, and in her peace, she can better narrate her story and empower young women.

She promised herself, that she will devote her time, her expertise, and her resources to help victims of abuse and violence cope and survive.

And yes, Mia moved on; but she was never healed. Moving on, is entirely different from healing. Mia realized this by helping fellow victims.

Mia, is a victim, helping other victims.  

Mia is healing by helping.

Published by michnavs

Philippine-born Michelle Navajas, currently residing in Malaysia. Michelle authored the book “After – Rain Skies: A Million Stars” for PWW during their Million Stars campaign. Graduated with a Master of Education majoring in English in the Philippines, Michelle was a former college professor, teaching literature, speech & oral communication, creative writing, drama, and theatre arts. Michelle is active in her writing profession and works as a freelance creative writer. Michelle passionately blogs at www.michnavs.wordpress.com, where you can find her prose and poetry on love, life, motherhood, and her advocacy on abuse and violence. A published author on Spillwords NYC https://spillwords.com/what-if-snowflakes-dont-fall-in-winter/ Her poem “Again” is published on three platforms, on MEDIUM -an International Writers and Readers Space, AFRICA WRITERS CARAVAN, and at WOMAWORDS LITERARY PRESS. kindly go check the following links –https://womawordsliterarypress.home.blog/2020/06/29/imagining-life-after-the-ravaging-virulent-covid-19-pandemic-a-special-journal/ –https://personalitiesofinspiration.wordpress.com/2020/06/29/imagining-life-after-covid-19-a-womawords-june-edition/

28 thoughts on “Mia @ 18

  1. The scars of such gruesome incident makes a permanent mark Mich. I could feel Mia’s pain through your words.
    Glad that finally she is healing by helping and empowering other women to be strong.

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    1. Thank you Radhika..it was tragic and we can only speculate what else, I hope Mia’s story will create more awareness and at the same time educate men that violence of any form is not acceptable.

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  2. This is so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry she had to go through so much. But I’m glad that she had the strength to overcome the trauma and the abuse. Even more admirable is the fact that she’s healing by helping others. Thanks for sharing this story.

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  3. Powerful and heartbreaking, SweetMich. Thank you for sharing this important story.
    Mia’s story is too familiar and so painful and sad. 😦
    I’ve always tried to find the good in everything, but there are things that happen in life that have no good in them…so what I’ve taken from those is the fact that I can be more understanding and I help others who go through similar tragedies. Yes, you are 100% correct…by helping we can find some healing. 🙂
    (((HUGS)))

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    1. Thank you too Carolyn, and like you I too try to find the good in even the worst situation. And love what you said that “there are things that happen in life that have no good”, and the least i do is learn from it and move forward.
      Thank you so much💕💕💕

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  4. Mich… 💔 My heart breaks and stands in awe at the ability of these women to continue on while carrying so much pain. You are such an important and powerful voice in this area 💜

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    1. With Mia, i realized silence worked for her but she eventually opened up…years after, beause she was never completely healed…i personally still would go for “speaking up”- in time..

      Thank you Val🤗

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  5. Mia has a unique way of thinking lovely which in her mind doesn’t make her a victim, it makes her a survivor and there’s a big difference between the two. The mind is a miraculous tool and she used hers to her ability. Maybe she felt by reporting it, it would damage her even if justice was brought, and if justice would have been miscarried it would have been worse. By burying the event, training the mind not to recall any of the event, time or face…it didn’t happen to her until she felt strong enough to face it because things like that makes the mind weak. Now she’s using that strength and passing it on to help others who have been victimized to teach them how to survive, because living life is part of surviving.🌹

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      1. You are to kind lovely, your post was quite intriguing and touching as well and I loved how you wrote about such a widely talked about subject. I admire your thoughts as well.🌹

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  6. I know that silence does not heal…being a rape victims advocate helped me heal to some degree, that with counseling and speaking my truth.

    Thanks Mich for continuing to be a voice and an advocate! ❤️❤️

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