Mia @ 18

Nothing beats the pain of losing yourself to somebody you barely even know. Nothing beats the pain of crying when you know it isn’t enough. Nothing beats the pain of wanting to die when you know death may not even be the answer.

Mia was your regular College girl. Pretty, charming, and smart. When everyone else thought it was a blessing, Mia later realized, it was rather a curse. For it was that same pretty and charming face that brought her to her agonizing situation.

Raped at 18.

And was forced to mature at such a young age.

Mia couldn’t actually recall the details anymore. Or maybe she chose to forget. Or maybe, forgetting was her way of coping.

Did forgetting help? Maybe yes, maybe no. One thing was sure though, it helped her moved on.

She intentionally forgot even the face of her perpetrator, the man who took away her innocence, the man who gave her endless nights of crying alone, and the man who at some point made her want to end her life.

But, forgetting helped. And oh, there was one more.

Her silence.

She never spoke about the abuse, to anybody, to anyone.

She kept her silence for so long. And yes, for some reasons and probably by the grace of God, her silence helped her forget and eventually moved on.

Now, years after, she chose to speak up. And why, now? Because she has found her peace now, and in her peace, she can better narrate her story and empower young women.

She promised herself, that she will devote her time, her expertise, and her resources to help victims of abuse and violence cope and survive.

And yes, Mia moved on; but she was never healed. Moving on, is entirely different from healing. Mia realized this by helping fellow victims.

Mia, is a victim, helping other victims.  

Mia is healing by helping.

28 Comments

  1. Chris Hall says:

    Tragic. Healing by helping; may Mia eventually gain her own inner peace.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you Chris…i pray too that she will be healed completely…🤗

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  2. The scars of such gruesome incident makes a permanent mark Mich. I could feel Mia’s pain through your words.
    Glad that finally she is healing by helping and empowering other women to be strong.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you Radhika..it was tragic and we can only speculate what else, I hope Mia’s story will create more awareness and at the same time educate men that violence of any form is not acceptable.

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  3. Sadje says:

    Oh so heartbreaking. Thanks for sharing this story Mich. healing by helping is wonderful.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you too Sadje…always…😊😊😊🤗🤗

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      1. Sadje says:

        Always my pleasure

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  4. This is so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry she had to go through so much. But I’m glad that she had the strength to overcome the trauma and the abuse. Even more admirable is the fact that she’s healing by helping others. Thanks for sharing this story.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you too Shewata for reading and sharing your thoughts. Mia is such a strong woman, and i admire her for that..💕

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      1. She’s certainly admirable and extremely inspiring. You’re very welcome, Mich ❤️

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      2. michnavs says:

        🤗🤗🤗

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  5. Powerful and heartbreaking, SweetMich. Thank you for sharing this important story.
    Mia’s story is too familiar and so painful and sad. 😦
    I’ve always tried to find the good in everything, but there are things that happen in life that have no good in them…so what I’ve taken from those is the fact that I can be more understanding and I help others who go through similar tragedies. Yes, you are 100% correct…by helping we can find some healing. 🙂
    (((HUGS)))

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you too Carolyn, and like you I too try to find the good in even the worst situation. And love what you said that “there are things that happen in life that have no good”, and the least i do is learn from it and move forward.
      Thank you so much💕💕💕

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  6. This is so heartbreaking and real …indeed healing is different than moving on. It is yet another painful event often in itself.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much..yes, i agree some healing can be painfull too, but in the end it will all be worth it💕

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      1. You are very welcome, true.

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  7. Secrets says:

    Mich… 💔 My heart breaks and stands in awe at the ability of these women to continue on while carrying so much pain. You are such an important and powerful voice in this area 💜

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Bree 💕💕

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  8. murisopsis says:

    Another heartbreaking story – but it does have a happy ending. I wonder if silence works as a Band-Aid or if it just delays healing…

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    1. michnavs says:

      With Mia, i realized silence worked for her but she eventually opened up…years after, beause she was never completely healed…i personally still would go for “speaking up”- in time..

      Thank you Val🤗

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  9. Jokerswild says:

    Mia has a unique way of thinking lovely which in her mind doesn’t make her a victim, it makes her a survivor and there’s a big difference between the two. The mind is a miraculous tool and she used hers to her ability. Maybe she felt by reporting it, it would damage her even if justice was brought, and if justice would have been miscarried it would have been worse. By burying the event, training the mind not to recall any of the event, time or face…it didn’t happen to her until she felt strong enough to face it because things like that makes the mind weak. Now she’s using that strength and passing it on to help others who have been victimized to teach them how to survive, because living life is part of surviving.🌹

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    1. michnavs says:

      Wow, thank you so much for sharing your brilliant thoughts.. i am sure readers will learn from what you just said…thank you so much😊😊😊

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      1. Jokerswild says:

        You are to kind lovely, your post was quite intriguing and touching as well and I loved how you wrote about such a widely talked about subject. I admire your thoughts as well.🌹

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      2. michnavs says:

        Thanks so much again…😊😊😊

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      3. Jokerswild says:

        😊😊🌹

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  10. I know that silence does not heal…being a rape victims advocate helped me heal to some degree, that with counseling and speaking my truth.

    Thanks Mich for continuing to be a voice and an advocate! ❤️❤️

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you too Jenna for sharing your thoughts. Yes, for Mia it took her sometime to realize that silence is not tantamount to healing…

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