Gone Too Soon

Gone Too Soon

it wasn’t planned, i know. but it doesn’t mean i didn’t want to

and that’s the thing, do we really need to want something to have it?

aren’t we suppose to love it and want it all at the same time when it’s there?

 already there.

and that’s again the thing. before you knew it’s there. it’s gone.

taken away. so suddenly. not a slight chance of survival was given.

gone. too soon.

and i didn’t know it could hurt this much.

until that last drop of hope is lost. last chance of opportunity is missed.

how soon is too soon? how fast is so fast? and how sudden is so sudden?

oh, God here i am trying to figure out, where have i gone wrong?

how did i not know? how did i not suspect? how did i not realize?

may i borrow Taylor Swift’s line and say

“come on baby come with me, we’re gonna fly away from here” to whom i will sing this now?

how am i gonna remember you anyway? how do you want me to call you my angel?

with tears in my eyes and blood oozing down my body, i write this.

to remember you. and be reminded of you.

that on this day, you came. that on this day too, you were taken away.

i wish i could have been spared a little more time with you.

 ‘cos i sure would love to hold you close to my heart.

and if by then chance you will be taken away, at least,

at least maybe i have a clear remembrance of you.

and maybe, just maybe it won’t hurt this much. it won’t hurt so bad.

with a heavy heart, i wonder. how soon is too soon?

how fast is so fast? and how sudden is so sudden? so this one’s a lullaby for you

that on this day, you came. that on this day too, you were taken away.

“Iconoclasm is breaking of established rules or destruction of accepted beliefs”

I want to talk about a highly sensitive issue most people don’t openly discuss – losing a baby during pregnancy.
Although losing a baby in pregnancy through miscarriage or stillbirth is common, it is still a taboo subject worldwide, linked to stigma and shame.
Mainly because 85% of miscarriages happen during the first trimester, mostly before mothers even announce their pregnancies to friends and relatives or the public.

Many women still do not receive appropriate and respectful care when their baby dies during pregnancy or childbirth. Women who lose their babies are made to feel that should stay silent about their grief, either because miscarriage and stillbirth are still so common, or because they are perceived to be unavoidable. Anyone would just dismiss the topic whenever discussed and say “it’s normal”. Of course, it’s not okay.

Miscarriage and baby loss is a topic so rarely spoken about, which seems such an incredible loss in itself, given that it’s how one in every four pregnancies ends. It seems entirely bizarre and wrong, that something so common could become such a taboo subject. And I’d like to break that taboo. If you had lost a baby by miscarriage, know that you are not alone. You can talk to any of your trusted friends or relatives. Talking about it will heal you. You and your partner can also go through healing together. It’s not easy but when you have someone who listens willingly to your story, it will make the healing process go on smoothly.

You can share your story via the comment section or email me. I am not an expert but, I am willing to listen to your story.

For Reena’s https://reinventionsreena.wordpress.com/2022/01/20/reenas-xploration-challenge-214/

35 Comments

  1. Reena Saxena says:

    I saw it as an ode to grief, and then you moved it to another sphere of the same emotion. Makes me think of female foeticide, careers nipped in the bud, potential destroyed… I’d like to think that souls and opportunities come back, but in a different form.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Reena for your insights. Your prompt made write this piece and i am really happy reading this myself…thank you.

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  2. Reena Saxena says:

    Reblogged this on Reena Saxena and commented:
    Gone too soon …by michnavs

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much😊

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  3. Sadje says:

    My younger daughter lost her first baby at 12 weeks. Both she and her husband were heartbroken. It took her a lot of time to come to terms with it. Though she has a baby girl now but she still remembers that loss.

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    1. michnavs says:

      I am so sorry to hear that Sadje. And i believe we should never really forget these angels…thank you so much for sharing your daughter’s story..πŸ€—

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      1. Sadje says:

        Very true my friend. You’ve written with a lot of sensitivity.

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      2. michnavs says:

        Thank you so much SadjeπŸ™β€

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  4. kittysverses says:

    I’m deeply moved by your poem, Mich. Kudos to you for addressing a poignant subject. πŸ™‚

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Kitty.. πŸ™

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      1. kittysverses says:

        You are welcome, Mich. πŸ™‚

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  5. murisopsis says:

    I think with my miscarriage my husband grieved more than I did. He was heart broken and only when son#1 was born did he really come back to himself.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Oh, that must be very hard Val…and i could imagine how devastated your hubby was…most men don’t usually talk about how they feel, and when they do, we how broken they are. Thank you for sharing this to us….thank you Val .

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  6. That is unimaginable grief, that needs its due respect and time. These are truly sensitive topics, the emotional, mental health needs around it are so not understood. Thank you for spreading awareness for open minded conversations would bring so much healing to the world.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Pragalbha. I agree that much of our health care system is geared towards healing and helping all sorts of sickness; but not much is heard about dealing with the emotional and mental trauma for women who have lost their babies thru miscarriage. I can also imagine the physical pain as well.

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      1. You are very welcome. Very true _()_

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  7. mrswrangler says:

    It is a subject that most don’t share about because it is painful.

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    1. michnavs says:

      I agree its very painful…thank you so much.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you Chuck..

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  8. Eugenia says:

    This is a deeply moving piece, Mich! Brava!

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Eugi.

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      1. Eugenia says:

        My pleasure, Mich.

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  9. Very sad when a woman has a miscarriage. You have done a fantastic job to the story, Mich.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so.much Kamal…

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      1. Welcome always dear Mich 😊

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  10. Lovely tribute, Mich. The miracle and tragedy of motherhood. πŸ’”

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    1. michnavs says:

      Aw, thank you Rose….so much..

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  11. A deeply sad, but very powerful and important write, Mich!
    Thank you for writing this and sharing it.

    Years ago, I started a support group for women who had lost children…to miscarriages, accidents, illness, diseases, etc. Each woman who participated was shocked to see how many women in our area had this horribleness in common. And each woman found friends, comfort, resources, help, etc. from our group.
    When my family moved away (to another city) I was happy to see the group continued getting together.
    (((HUGS)))

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Carolyn…it is important that we provide the necessary support to mothers who lost their child…😊😊😊

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  12. calmkate says:

    a very significant and emotional topic handled with great sensitivity Mich, kudos!

    My sister lost her first son at 6 months but he has a name and his younger brother knows of him. Each must find their own way of dealing with such tragedy.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much fot sharing that Kate…i have also heard of other stories of miscarriage ..most of them had names for their babies as well..πŸ€—

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      1. calmkate says:

        names but no funerals … those remains are discarded with hospital waste! That needs to change 😦

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