Visit Me

Visit Me

i dream of you
in the early mornings of the days
when sunshine isn’t warm
and clouds isn’t dim
you’re playfully amazing
as i knew you would be
in your vague cute little face.

a vision of your smile
is all that i ever have
in my make believe nursery room
i would have built and designed
should you have
victoriously made it
out in this world
on your ninth month.

rest now my little angel
but visit me soon
anytime you want
and maybe then
you could stay longer
let me remember
the vagueness of your face
this time; clearer and distinct
visit me in the stillness of the night.

Losing a baby in pregnancy through miscarriage or stillbirth is still a taboo subject worldwide, linked to stigma and shame. Many women still do not receive appropriate and respectful care when their baby dies during pregnancy or childbirth (https://www.who.int/news-room/spotlight/why-we-need-to-talk-about-losing-a-baby)

It is time that we provide mothers/women who lost their babies through pregnancy the right amount of care and understanding. Stop shaming and blaming them. And patronizing the idea that “it happens all the time, thus it could happen to anyone”. No one knows exactly the emotional and physical pain the mother goes through this time. A little amount of understanding would go a long way. Help them heal by not being judgemental. Your critical point of view is not needed. It is your compassion.

If not now. WHEN?

For Reena’s exploration challenge
https://reinventionsreena.wordpress.com/2022/03/10/reenas-xploration-challenge-4/

40 Comments

  1. Sadje says:

    A beautiful, thoughtful poem Mich. I agree that this is mostly an Unacknowledged loss that needs more care and recognition

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Sadje. I am glad that we have the same thoughts on this.πŸ™πŸ’›

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      1. Sadje says:

        You’re welcome! I been through this myself and so has my younger daughter.

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      2. michnavs says:

        Ohhh, πŸ™πŸ’› so sorry to hear that Sadje..πŸ™πŸ™

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      3. Sadje says:

        It was her first pregnancy and the loss was devastating

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      4. michnavs says:

        I am sure she is well now with you by her side..πŸ™πŸ’›

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      5. Sadje says:

        Yes, she is and has a daughter who’ll be turning 3 soon.

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      6. michnavs says:

        That’s wonderful Sadje❀

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      7. Sadje says:

        It is, thanks

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      8. michnavs says:

        ❀❀❀

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  2. Reena Saxena says:

    You raise a pertinent point. The ancient Indian system did not allow baby items to be purchased before the birth. Infant mortality was high, and they did not want the mother to look at those things and cry. But how does one forget the being who has lived in your body for nine months?

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    1. michnavs says:

      That is so sad Reena. I don’t any mother or woman for that matter could ever forget that. Traditions and beliefs should also adapt the change of time. We need to allow these mothers to grieve, it’s the only way to heal. Apart from the emotional ordeal, there is the physical pain too.

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      1. Reena Saxena says:

        It’s not followed any more. Everybody packs hospital hampers and decorates the baby’s room before the event.

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      2. michnavs says:

        And that’s how it should be…thank you ReenaπŸ™πŸ’›

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  3. Reena Saxena says:

    Reblogged this on Reena Saxena and commented:
    Visit me ….. by MIchelle Navajas

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank youπŸ™πŸ’›

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  4. This stirs a deep chord within for many Mich. Tenderly beautiful.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Radhika.β€πŸ™

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  5. rajkkhoja says:

    Amazing & informative write up poem. So useful & advisable written you.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so muchπŸ™β€

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  6. mrswrangler says:

    A calming poem on a hard subject.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Aw, thank you so muchπŸ’›

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      1. mrswrangler says:

        Your welcome.

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  7. A thoughtful poem on miscarriage and we need to protect these women who lose their babies. Nice post, Mich.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much Kamal.πŸ’›πŸ™

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      1. Welcome dear Mich πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ€—

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  8. You steadily shine your light of poetry on these very difficult and tender topics. It makes me take a pause silently.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so so much Pragalbha for saying that it means so much to meβ€πŸ™

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      1. You are very welcome πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’›

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  9. β€πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•…

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  10. Well said Mich. They need all the support they can get.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so muchπŸ™πŸ’›

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  11. Beautiful write about loss and coming to terms with it.

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    1. michnavs says:

      Thank you so much PunamπŸ™

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  12. Empowering write!

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