Mother – in- Law

In – laws are like muffins, cupcakes, cookies and chocolate bars….seemingly nice….seemingly sweet; but when put together in one plate …satisfaction not guaranteed…

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Time has not robbed my feelings

toward my mother

she’s still the sweet darling,

and she’ll be forever mine.

Age may have changed her

face now furrow – laden,

the beauty is still there;

she is my ideal token.

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I wonder if the same thing is being said by a man…a man who is about to get married… what happens now to the wife? will she be an ideal token too? Within the past years i have heard of so many jokes and tales about the controlling, opinionated mother – in – law, and the lazy disrespectful daughter-in- law, I wonder….WOULD THIS TWO WOMEN WHO LOVE THE SAME MAN EVER GET ALONG?    this may surprise you but my answer is ..without battling an eyelash … YES.

There are horror stories we’ve all heard about silently interfering nosy mother – in – law (add to that the sisters too). A friend of mine told me about hers who would secretly spy on her. Even though my friend laughs at this -her misguided mother – in- law (add the sisters), she is still hurt by such distrust and spitefulness..(who wouldn’t?)

When my eldest won the Bible quiz bee some time last week, i became curious about reading the bible.. (never read it though…i only learn about it in literature).. then i came across the story of Ruth and Naomi. Ruth’s husband is Naomi’s son who died. Ruth came from a different ethnic group but Naomi accepted her wholeheartedly and always call he my “daughter”. When Ruth’s husband died, she don’t have anymore legal obligation to stay with Naomi. But she did. It wasn’t obligation that bind them together it was LOVE. Both Ruth and Naomi are fabulous examples of strong women who are in – laws and able to deal with each other…

I say, the bible gave us a touching picture that a kind, loving relationship can actually exist between two in -laws…..with one word to remember: STRONG – strong enough to deal with every possible event, circumstances, that may stain your relationship….therefore the weak ones always get to be in trouble……worst comes to worst? ….walk away for a moment, lock your door and take the deepest breath possible.. then your good to go….trust me..its works….i know!

It’s Always Fun in the Philippines

We were blessed to have spent summer abroad. It’s an annual event that we always look forward to as a family.  Its wonderful…its amazing…but i say…nothing beats HOME..

I’m counting down the reasons why i always love being back home.

1. THE FOOD

                   pork adobo is what we craved,

                   chicken inasal is what we fancied,

                   Filipino spag is what we desired,

                    early morning pandesal is what we missed.

    i am a pizza, pasta type of girl. But when your out of the country for a little while you will surely miss Filipino foods..nothing beats our adobo. nothing even beats chicken inasal. nothing beats surely the sweet Filipino spaghetti- it is only in the Philippines where spaghetti is deliciously sweet…nothing beats the early morning walk to buy pandesal…

2. FRIENDS (and the way they make you smile)

               people come, people go,

               but a friend will stay, they do.

               they make you smile,

              they make you crazy for a while.

 

    I am not so sure if my there were people who miss me when i was away ..(sigh…..) but one thing i’m sure though..i miss a lot when i was out…well, whether they are your good or not so good friends…you will miss the beautiful genuine smile you get even from a strangest Filipino stranger.. and when your out of the country…you try to look for that same genuine smile from every stranger you encounter but i guess nothing compares to the smile you see back home.

3. THE FAMILY

                                its crazy, but amazing;

                                 its irritating, but loving.

                                a family dearest,

                               we always cherish.

    I know we all despise the fact that at some point, our relatives can be so annoying and disturbing for always wanting to know every single detail of our own personal and private lives… and at some point we all want them out of our lives..(i know you do..) but again, having been out for a while, it made me realized that one of the sweetest most magnificent gifts we have from God is the gift of family….they complete us ..they make us safe… they love us…they adore us…no matter how irritating or annoying they maybe.

 

4. THE “CHAOS”

 

                 children screaming,

                  people laughing,

                  neighbors fighting,

                  friends enjoying.

 

          it is only in the Philippines when you walk around and hear people screaming  as if wanting to kill each other and yet you see them at the end of the day enjoying an afternoon talk. it is only in the Philippines when neighbors scorn each other and yet you see them passing on a bowl of adobo at lunch. it is only in the Philippines when you can afford to sit down and basically do nothing all and manage to have a good meal. it is only in the Philippines when you get to hear your neighbors karaoke moments and never getting irritated for the unwanted noise.

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    its indeed ALWAYS FUN in the PHILIPPINES …..

 

Wedding Vow

One of my college students whom i have never seen for quite a while invited me to be a part of her entourage for her wedding day…

I’ve always been fascinated by weddings and the joy that it brings to two people in love who wanted to spend the rest of their lives together…

It is also a manifestation that we are still leaving in a world where true love reigns….

I do….

I could sing you a song,

I could stay with you for long…

The melody may not be strong,

But i could be with you in my song.

I could write you a poem so dear,

I could hold you in my arms so near…

The words may not be like that of Shakespeare’s,

But it is what my heart yells so much oh, so dear.

I could create your image so gay,

I could kiss you so long and make you stay…

The picture may not be perfect they will say,

But i know it will make you so happy today.

I could stop the clock for a while,

I could make you hold me with a smile..

The thought maybe actually whimsical,

But I know love is all that is magical.

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Just the thought that you’ve finally found the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with is something that is so exciting and wonderful. Everything felt so natural.  You might even say that you don’t know what it is about that person that drives you closer to each other- it might be the combination of a great sense of humor, charming personality, good looks…whatever it is, you can sense its presence. I could call it chemistry or better yet the possibility that you are on the same wavelength…who knows…Image

Well whatever it is really…here’s wishing you all that one day soon you’ll find your one true love. And when you found it never let it go…..

We may fall in love many times in our lifetime but we would only have one greatest love…

Keep the love alive!!!!

I Miss You

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Three years had pass…

thought of you lingers,

memories so clear,

I can hold you really clear.

I miss you, I know for sure!

Three years had pass..

scent of you lingers,

running through the air,

I can kiss you near.

I miss you, I know for sure!

Three years had pass..

your soft cuddly touch embraces,

creeping through my being,

I can get closer even a thing.

I miss you , I know for sure!

Three years had pass..

hearing your sweet voice,

sincerely saying, “I love you baby”,

I can say ” I love you too, just stay”.

I miss you, I know for sure!

Three years had pass…

leaving me by surprise,

I was hurt, I was broken,

I can cry, I can scorn.

I miss you, I know for sure!

Three years had pass..

on this day in a mass,

I spoke to say goodbye,

a daughter’s eulogy and lullaby.

I miss you DAD, I know for sure!!

P.s.

It’s been three years dad, and i am still missing you. I hope your happy up there….Oh by the way..Happy Birthday too!!

Thank You

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You give me sight when i can’t see,

You grant me sound when i can’t hear,

You offer me warmth when i can’t feel,

You present me flavor when i can’t savor,

You bestow me fragrance when i can’t perceive…

Cheers to you….

You endow me wisdom when i don’t understand,

You offer me direction when i don’t stride,

You furnish me details when i don’t comprehend,

You supply me energy when i don’t pursuit…

Thanks to you…

You support me even if i don’t ask,

You indulge me with love even if i don’t love you back,

You equip me with kindness even if i am ungrateful,

You accommodate me all the times even if i always run away…

Thumbs up for you…

I don’t know what i have done to deserve you,

I don’t know what to do to repay you,

I don’t know what to say to express my gratitude…

All i know is you are always there for me no matter what and regardless of…

I LOVE YOU MOM!!!!

P.s

Happy mothers day to my mom and to all the mothers out there..We should remember too that mother’s day is not only for the biological mothers (all sorts of mothers with child) but it is also for those women who wonderfully gave themselves in the service of caring and nurturing the young. They too have done an awesome job. And because they are awesome  let us also greet them a HAPPY MOTHER’S Day – in celebration of their AWESOMENESS….

By the way these women i am referring to are those in the religious service. i have known wonderful Sisters and i tell you its really difficult to nurture and take care of a child you barely even know but they did great… So HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY SISTERS…you deserve it..

dreams

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I was having breakfast with my Aunt and her friend who went on a holiday trip with us. My aunt’s friend suddenly said ” i wish we could have this kind of life for the rest of our days….a delicious breakfast overlooking the beach…a hotel room accommodation ….a daily helper who would graciously say “can i make up your room”?…a perfect house in the middle of a forest inspired place……” I paused for a moment and thought…yah…why not?…….

If my dreams have powers,

I would dream of a majestic house;

a house with a luxurious living room…

a grandiose staircase…

a magnificent dining area…

an elegant chandelier….

a towering balcony….

But my dreams don’t have powers,

So, i didn’t get a majestic house;

but a wonderful home….

with joyful kids welcoming in our living room….

with cheerful girls running back and forth our stairs…

with visitors admiringly looking at our chandelier…

with relatives enjoying the afternoon view in our balcony…

If my dreams have powers,

I would dream of a perfect world;

where true friends are by your side in moments of sadness…

where neighbors are stronger and wiser….

where love is an act of surrendering to another person…

But my dreams don’t have powers,

So I have friends who are by my side in happy times,

because their joy is to see me delighted….

I have neighbors who are vulnerable because they have confidence in

themselves, and at some point they know we all stumble…

and  we love because we have faith in another person…

If my dreams have powers,

i would dream to believe that inner beauty matters most,

than outer beauty….

i would believe that friends maintain an open door…

i would believe that people are disciplined and organized…

But my dreams don’t have powers,

so i believe that outer beauty is inner beauty seen by the naked eye…

i believe that friends should only be interested in opening one door,

the door to my heart……

and i believe discipline is necessary but we have to be spontaneous

and enthusiastic, it makes us live life perfectly…

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So…. you see….an idea of a perfect life in a perfect world is basically attainable…you just have to change the way you view your on life….you can live a perfect life in a perfect world with perfect people around you; or you can live a miserable life always wanting for something you know you can never have…the choice is yours…

Live a perfect life!!!!!…it isn’t that hard after all…..Good luck…

motherhood

Its been a while since i have stopped working; but honestly, there are moments when i would pause and say “what would have i become if i did not quit my job?”..for the longest time i believed that we could be better parents if we have fulfilled what our hearts truly desire. Little did i realize that being a parent;  it will require us to take care of our kids …of our family that is the reality and reality bites;  thinking about what our heart desires should already be a thing of the past. Being a parent, we should always (i mean it always) consider what our children’s hearts desire…what they really want…what makes them happy…what is best for them…in short being a parent is no longer about ME….its about THE KIDS…and so it is only when we accept this truth that we truly become a parent…

the catch? if you think you are not yet ready to give up your own dreams and hopes in exchange of the dreams and hopes of little kids.. (trust me when you have kids, they would have different dreams and hopes as yours)…then, wait…..wait for the moment when you are ….when you are ready to pursue and fulfill the dreams and hopes of your own kids…

Defending the poor and unfortunate,

caring with a heart so compassionate;

ah! a lawyer that’s what i will be,

back then as a little girl with glee.

Broadcasting news on TV,

doing it with mind so steady;

Ah! a broadcaster i see,

back in high school so carefree.

Pouring thoughts on paper,

scribbling late at night so dear;

ah! a writer i will,

back in college with free will.

Never become a lawyer really,

it wasn’t my dream actually;

twas a childish thing to wish,

no dirt to dish.

Broadcasting wasn’t even for me,

though i have the chance to be;

you see a surgery on the neck,

making it hard to speak.

Writer i may have always been,

creating stories every now and then;

putting actions into words,

screaming as i scribble with thoughts.

You see, there’s something i miss,

never imagined i enjoyed it with bliss;

caring for little souls as they grow,

motherhood is what makes me glow.

P.s

i have just finished reading the novel “THE GIFT” by Cecelia Ahern. (like Paolo Coelho i love her too so much, am actually done reading 5 of her other best selling novels.) Anyways, i was saying … at the end of the novel she said “Each second makes its mark on every single person’s life- comes and then goes, quietly disappearing without fanfare, evaporating into air like steam from a piping hot christmas pudding. Enough time leaves us warm; when our time is gone, it leaves us cold. It is time of which we do not have enough; it is time that causes the war within our hearts, and so we must spend it wisely.”  So beautiful and so true….it reinforced and strengthened the truth that i have made the wisest decision ever…we barely have enough time to see our children grow and if we don’t spend it wisely with them we might one day be sitting in our rocking chair saying…”WHERE DID I GO WRONG?…WHAT HAVE I DONE…..WHAT HAVE I NOT DONE…” at least in the end whatever happens, and whatever kind of persons our children would become we know from the bottom of our hearts that we did everything to usher and prepare the way for them…

the best of luck to all mothers like me…and kids, believe me -when things go wrong, talk to the right person and that right person would always be your parent.