What makes a Creative Writer? (I could have done better)

It’s been a while since I last stop by..right? I say… I have been very busy… I always say that whenever someone asks me….but the truth is…I have lost the “spark” ….”spark” to write….”spark” to inspire…” spark” to create…until yesterday… I overheard a conversation between two people…

 

Woman: thanks a lot, it was so nice of you to do that…

Man: oh, (in an exciting tone)…it was nothing …

Woman: of course it was something…

Man: ahh I could have done more…

 

………..end of conversation……

 

(truth is, I chose not to listen further)

Really…we could have done more….done better…done the best…in life we always say that..we hear that from almost everybody and yet, at some point, we have also committed the “I could have done better” crime…and sadly though….there’s nothing you can actually do…not more..not even better…why? you simply lost the chance..the opportunity…the moment..the time…

And so there goes my “spark” again…I know I can do better with my crazy schedule; however, I chose not…i know I could have been my best; however, I chose to be at my least…the same way through writing…

thanks to two wonderful people who’s a conversation I overheard…

writing can be very tough…especially if you don’t know where and how to start…well, I believe, the hardest part in everything we do is the “beginning”…” the start”…so let me help you out…

 

1. Begin by Seeing with the Mind’s Eye

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The human mind is like a picture album. It contains pictures or images of people, things, places, events, and processes that make up our knowledge of the world.

Thus, when we are asked to imagine the most beautiful person we’ve met..we open up a part of our mind’s album and see a photograph of who we believe is the most beautiful…

Creative imagination helps us solve problems and enjoy life. It makes us see things in a new light or from a different perspective (Hermosa, 2002).

Our mind is so powerful and versatile that we can do anything we want. It can transport us back in time.  Our mind is the basic tool we need to survive and thus improve the quality of our lives. It helps us see things clearly from the past…helps us make better associations …It can bring us closer to the future. Our mind can tell the future and tell us what can happen. It can help us understand the future.

SO, LOOK FOR YOUR MIND’S EYE…see the world clearly …remember….create….tell…

 

2. Sharpening the Senses

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What makes you enjoy the world? What are the bases of your actions and reactions? Exactly! your senses. Now, sharpening your senses will enable you to define and describe everything clearly; even in a way nobody else has.

Work on this basic exercise: When you wake up in the morning, list down the sounds of your breakfast  the bacon sizzles right?….etc), the smells….the sights…and the taste of your breakfast. You will be fascinated at how many times you have missed the opportunity of appreciating the beauty of a single hard-boiled egg.

SO, GO AHEAD EXPLORE THE WORLD FURTHER WITH YOUR FIVE SENSES

3. Feeling the line, the color, the texture

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What makes a woman beautiful? You will probably say, her face, her color, her skin… What makes a man handsome? You will again say, his jaw, his shoulders, his eyes…Appreciating the lines gives you the ability to define a shape. Different kinds of lines are associated with certain feelings and ideas. Why are we tempted to pinch a baby’s chubby cheeks?

Colors evoke ideas and feelings too. Certain colors symbolize certain ideas. Texture refers to the objects’ feel to the touch.

If we have a better appreciation of these things we can create better thoughts which will bring out better descriptions.

SO, FEEL THE LINES IN YOUR FACE…who is seated beside you now?..feel the smoothness of his arms…are you tickled? his strong jaw…are you mesmerized? his broad shoulders….are you secured?

 

4. Painting with Words

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When we share our experiences with others, we usually describe or narrate something. The same thing in writing..we tell…we narrate..we share…BUT this time we make sure we allow our readers to imagine our experiences through our words…

Build an exciting vocabulary:

For example, think of what people do to emit sounds…

Mutter     grasp  mumble  sigh  scream  hum  whistle 

Whisper  groan  pant  yell

 

Imagine saying ” I wish to whisper I love you in your ears..”

Instead of  “I wanted to tell you I love you..”

 

Imagine saying ” Her almond eyes lay perfectly on her oval face….”

Instead of ” Her eyes are beautiful…”

 

Consider how a single word can change the meaning of a single thought..better yet, imagine how a single word can melt the heart of your readers…go ahead try it on yourself…

SO, PAINT YOUR WORDS…provide colors…create movements…move places…talk with sounds…

Try this one: Describe a person. Use the photographer’s basic photography skill; ZOOM IN and ZOOM OUT.

To Zoom in- go near to his/her face. Describe facial features from the single strand of her hair to the chin.

To Zoom out- take a look from the distance. Note general details such as overall appearance, impression such as height, weight, color.

 

P.S. have fun writing and let me know…

Happy Dad’s Day

We have the power…

We have grace…

We create beauty. ..

We give strength. ..

We set the pace…

We breathe life…

For all things must come to life…

Under our emerald embrace…

Maybe in life or in death…

It may not be true to all…but I am a firm believer of “we create our own destiny”….what lies ahead is basically dependent upon how we work for it…we have the power to make our dreams come true and at the same time, we also have the power to make it not happen. I say…we are living the life we have basically wished for…simply because we’ve worked so damn hard to achieve what we have at the moment. ..life is good … really really good. Life has been very kind to my family. ..we get to travel…we get to shop…we get to stay in luxurious hotels… My husband has the gift of making huge surprises…He can make simple things magical. ..he never fails to amaze us all… He is simply one great dad…happy father’s day to all dads… May you continue to hold that power in your hands…may you strive for beauty and grace…may you forever breathe life to your family. ..

Singapore @ its best

“The world is a book…and those who do not travel read only a page”

Saint Augustine

 

Summer is fun!

Not for the sun,

nor for the amusement

Or the enjoyment. ..

Summer is fun!

A time to trek…tour…and take a long trip…away!

 

Dreams do come true...even for a moment...a feel of Hollywood at universal studios Singapore
Dreams do come true…even for a moment…a feel of Hollywood at universal studios Singapore

 

They say Singapore is now considered the most expensive city to live in…well…that’s actually true. ..everything is really expensive. .from the bottled water…to the noodles…to the hamburger. ..to the coffee. ..to the gifts….well…everything. …but; who cares?  If you have everything then why not make use of it?

As I was growing up.. traveling for me would mean shopping. .. (if you remembered I wrote something about it last year) but I guess. .as I aged…I have become more aware of the real meaning of traveling. ..it has become more of keeping up as many experiences and memories together as a family. ..

Sure enough…this year was a different experience for me…

 

happy mother’s day!

“There is something truly magical about the way a little girl turns into her mother”-Chicken Soup for the Soul

Indeed it is true. My eldest daughter is now in college student. My two other daughters are now in high school..that leaves me with one little girl in elementary.

We have heard mothers complaining about how their children changed when they went to college or even high school…about how they have become less of a “sweet little kid”…about how they have forgotten birthdays,  anniversaries and other important family celebrations…about how they have stopped making personalized cards….about how they simply CHANGED…

I say I am one lucky mom…why? My daughters may have grown up…they may have become big girls…but they never changed. .they are still my sweet, kind, and thoughtful little girls…

Here’s what my grown-up girls prepared for me on mother’s day.

This is what makes motherhood oh so rewarding.

1. They made me feel soooo beautiful

a "cartoonized" me

Well. ..this is the “cartoon” version of myself…as perceived by my daughters.

2. I know they love me despite my limitations

My youngest daughter always amazed me with her pure and honest thoughts
My youngest daughter always amazed me with her pure and honest thoughts

3. They know I am one tough mother, but at the same time they recognized my need for a “knight in my shining armor”

Well..I guess this is what I get for teaching creative writing. ..
Well…I guess this is what I get for teaching creative writing. ..

4. They always believed in me (they watched the same movies as I did)

My oh my...this is really cute...
My oh my…this is really cute…

5. They know that I am loved by many, but they make sure they love me the most

Ahhh..this is so sweet...
Ahhh..this is so sweet…

…happy mother’s day…

Starbucks

The pretty strabucks who made my latte this morning
The pretty Starbucks crew who made my latte this morning

Waking up every morning is quite a struggle especially if ….well…we’re getting a little older.

Waking with a cup of coffee. .latte or cappuccino. .is another thing especially if you go to a fancy coffee shop where you can splurge over gourmet coffees

We live in a province. .a little farther from the capital city. .and I must say I was one of the very few who rejoiced when Starbucks opened a few years ago.

Some say it’s an elite place.

Others say it so expensive.

Few commented its for those who are bored.

Well…whatever your take over this fancy coffee shop I say…I enjoyed it here. Let me count down three reasons why.

1. The crew

A fleeting smile,

A waving hello,

That’s what they are

To you and me…

Yes…they have the habit of smiling as soon as you enter the door. They wave hello and they wave goodbye. .and mind you they get to familiarize themselves with the names of the regular customers.  So I was in fact delighted to hear my name being called out the moment I entered.  And one important aspect of the crew that made me like them…they speak the English language fluently.  Whether it’s part of the application requirements or not…I enjoyed it..o enjoyed seeing beautiful girls making coffee while at the same time having a command of the English language.

2. The ambiance

Cars passing by…

People strolling around…

Friends engaging …

A place to converge beautiful thoughts

For you and me…

Yes…the place…I love the location. It is situated in a very busy street where you can practically see people from all walks of life from the inside. You get to enjoy friends trying to catch up with each other..and you got to see some people who just love to be alone with a coffee (count me in..)

3. The coffee

Sweet luscious Smell…

Unwavering distinct aroma…

A coffee specially blended…

Just for you and me…

Yes, you see…I can’t let the day pass bu without a coffee. .and for some reason, I love the way coffees ate blended n star bucks..it speaks of a lot of things..it tells a story. …it opens up emotions….it cuddles a person….it warms your heart…

This morning after dropping off my daughter in school I stopped by for a latte and a french croissant. …

Delicious. ..heartwarming. …soothing….ahhh I am ready to kick off my day…

The caffe latte made special
The caffe latte made special

Guys Listen Up…

I have been anticipating this my whole life as a mom of four girls; however,  I didn’t realize it would be like this…the day has finally arrived when my eldest daughter who’s in college gets to have her first formal male/guy/boy visitor at home…on valentines day.

Let me tell you what went wrong with the visit.

First,  it was unannounced. By this I mean he did not ask my daughter’s permission that he will come over.

      Tsk….tsk…tsk…Wrong move. She was too busy to even consider a visitor much more entertain someone who just came in crashing.

Second, he came along with some bunch of “bodyguards” (friends actually,  one being a cousin to my daughter).

         Tsk…tsk…Tsk…Another wrong move. For someone strong, intelligent, and driven college student like my daughter (modesty aside) .. it was a turn-off.

Third, he came in prepared for a solo original performance of his life. Yes…you guessed it right. He serenaded my daughter with an original composition. It was sweet and nice and romantic…but again…tsk…tsk…tsk..another wrong move.

          He scared her with him over the top romantic gesture. For a first time visit…I personally believed it was a bad idea..although in fairness he sang really well and the lyrics weren’t even also bad.

Fourth, he was too prepared; and his actions were too choreographed.

         Well, I am sure you will all agree with me if I say it is more comfortable to loosen up and just allow things to happen naturally.

Fifth, he came in with traditional roses, chocolates, and..necklace…

          The first two items I might consider. ..the third. .I don’t understand… Okay, I might be just too pathetic about the whole thing but come on..it was like ahhhhhh…

Lastly, and I think the gravest of all the wrong moves…he came in with a dedication written in the card that has been generically used by every boy on earth.

          Here’s what it says: “roses are red, this ink is blue; a girl stole my heart, I’m glad it’s you”………

Now guys…boys…men… tell me…

Isn’t it just right to ask for permission when you visit a girl’s house? (Where is your courtesy?)

Isn’t it a sign of uncertainty to come over with a “bodyguard”? (What are you scared of?)

Isn’t it too “loud” to perform solo on a first visit? (Why show off when you can play it cool?)

Isn’t it awkward to come in prepared with all your “choreography? “(Haven’t you heard of “be cool”?)

Isn’t it scary to give valuable gifts on a first visit?  (What happens if you get busted, will you take it back or will the girl be obliged to give it back?)

And lastly, isn’t it pathetic to make use of a generic dedication that I bet have been used for generations? ( don’t you think its nice to write what’s in your heart?)

Well. .that’s just me…what he did might be fine with others but judging on my experiences and hearing from my friends. ..those were a “no..no..no”.

Nevertheless, I wanted to say that I think that boy is really nice and intelligent (am sure of this one). …he just needs to restructure his moves next time…

The gifts....I didn't get a photograph of the chocolates;  one of my other daughters ate ot immediately after the boy left. Well what to do....It looked delicious,  she said..
The gifts…I didn’t get a photograph of the chocolates; one of my other daughters ate it immediately after the boy left.
Well, what to do…It looked delicious, she said…

Love

The happy valentines banner my daughters made for me. Each hanging hearts contains a special love message
The happy Valentine banner my daughters made for me. Each hanging hearts contains a special love message

It’s February 15…a day after Valentine’s Day…and well..again just like yesterday when I thought it would be another ordinary day…I was wrong…again I woke up with my girls running around with a personalized banner.

Let me tell you what each heart says…

…I believe in love at first sight; I love my mom the first time I opened my eyes.

…others don’t believe in heroes; they haven’t met my dad.

…”dad, I may find my prince; but you will always be my king.”

…a daughter needs a dad to stand by her the day she marries;  to love her even if she fails; to comfort her when the rain falls.

Mom:

 age 10: “I love you”

 age 14: “my mom is so annoying”

age 18: ” I wanna leave the house”

age 25: ” Mom, you were right”

age 30: “Mom, forgive me”

age 50: ” I don’t wanna lose my mom”

age 70: ” I love my mom so much”

…love your mom, you’ll never get another…

Beautiful reasons to celebrate love… as simple as that…

The hanging hearts
The hanging hearts