DREAM the Biggest Dream

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I’m down in deep dark pitch;

untangling the muddy ditch,

oblivious of the heat,

awaiting to be neat.

I stood still and lay;

all through the day,

engulfed by fear and envy,

keeping through and steady.

I tend to steady or higher;

with great physical power.

brawny…

muscular…

rugged…

stalwart…

I struggle,

I dream…dream to hope,

I hope …and hope to realize.

I admire people who worked so hard to succeed in life. Success may not always be measured by how much money you have in the bank or how far you have gone through in the corporate world.

For some, success may simply mean achieving a favorable or desired outcome over something that we wanted for.

Like the water buffalo; despite of the  heat of the sun it struggles to maintain its grace and composure knowing that the heat will end as the sun goes down. Meanwhile, as it awaits for the sun to go down, it emerges itself over a muddy water so as to keep cool the whole day. There are people who are as firm and as strong of the water buffalo. They are those who despite of the hardships and difficulties manage to keep a smile in their hearts knowing that at the end of everything something good will happen.

But…. how do we really keep a smile despite of all the hardships?

1. YOU need to DREAM BIG

Dream big and act upon it one small step at a time. It is indeed true that When we dream big we are able to see clearly the bigger picture while at the same time plan to do action from the smallest perspective.

2.YOU need an INSPIRATION

Inspiration as the word suggest, is something or someone that makes you want to do something or gives you an idea about what to create; it could be a person, a place, an experience. Now look around… find that “inspiration” and choose to be great for your “inspiration”.

3. YOU need to be CONSISTENT

As you find that “inspiration” … you may start working on your goal now. But hold on for a while…. do you have the ability be consistent in your work?

Be consistent. Act in the same way, of the same quality, at all time.  You need to do something in harmony, with regularity or steady continuity; free from variation or contradiction.

P.S.

Here’s wishing you all that you achieve that ONE GREAT BIG DREAM you have…let me know

Affection

 

Silence stood over,

in the darkest corner,

your gaze still and slow,

in shallow breath high and low.

Warm around and still,

in deep hollow feel,

your touch burns and show,

in the cold body in tow.

Scream yield and hover,

in the soft sheet cover,

your mute tender passion,

the ingratitude of fervor affection

P.S.

Here’s wishing you all that you find that one great passion you’ve been looking for in life….let me know…

affectionately loving...
affectionately loving…

Boredom….How to Get Over it

 

Listlessness…restlessness…weariness….

nothing with spark,

everything’s dark,

all through the park.

doldrums in a cold storage

provocation…incitation…instigation…

ardent affection,

deeper passion,

greater sensation.

fervor love awaiting.

Boredom according to Merriam – Webster Dictionary means the state of being weary and restless through lack of interest.

Question is… have you been feeling bored lately?

I did… I would not be writing about this if it haven’t hit me.

It was tough. It was scary. I was mind blowing. It was migraine – inducing moment.

How did i get over it?

Here are the things which help me the most in processing my state of boredom.

1. Identify what causes your state of boredom.

An interesting paper written by John Eastwood, Alexandra Frischen, Mark Fenske, and Daniel Smilek in the September, 2012 issue of Perspectives on Psychological Science says that attention plays an important role in creating boredom.

In my case I was able to figure out the reason why i got so  bored easily. I lack the attention and ability to focus on something, leading me to dislike everything i do or worst dislike people i see. I realized that i have lost my ability to focus or pay attention when i finally decided to quit my job in the academic world. Once you are in the academe, you need more than anything but focus and attention to be able to get through your daily routines and get through the day flawlessly. When i wasn’t working anymore i lost that ability to focus thus leading to boredom even if there so much going on around me.

2. Work on your passion.

What makes you happy? What makes you jump off your bed and get going? What makes you smile? What brightens up your day? In my case i went back to the very thing that lead me to the Academic world. My love for reading and writing. I finished a course in Journalism. But as soon as i quit my job, i stopped reading, worst even i stopped writing.

This gave birth to my BLOG. As soon as i started hitting my computer keys i felt my nerves pumping up and my blood oozing with great fervor. I know i will be fine.

I started reading again. And for the very first time in my life i was able to finish most books and novels which i have been dying to read when i was working. I couldn’t afford to do “passion reading” back then because my time was basically consumed by reading the paper works and reflections of my students.

I am delighted to have finished all of the books of Paolo Coelho,  Mitch Albom, Cecelia Ahern, and now my goal is to finish all the books of Nicholas Sparks. I have read some of the books of John Greene, David Baldacci and other contemporary authors too.

3. Get Going

Yes, it may sound so cliche but it helps a lot. For someone like me who is used to engage in daily intellectual discourses, it is a must to get going.

I started getting involve in my children’s school organization. Attending parents meetings and conferences help a lot. Joining strategic planning is also very interesting.

I also begun my advocacy of helping students in their academic requirements such as thesis, research papers and i also do occasional coaching (impromptu speaking contest, declamation, oration and the like).

In short, find an organization or advocacy where you can volunteer or be a part of. You will see how much it would change your life.

4. Choose to be happy

This is again a cliche, (others will say) but believe me, when you are bored, it is difficult to find that small amount of joy lying inside you. So you simply must choose to be happy or die feeling bored and lonely.

My simple joys and happiness include my family. Shopping clothes for my kids, dressing them up, and going out for lunch or dinner with them. Not to mention the everyday exchange of discourses with my husband who works abroad. The simple, out of the box conversation will began to matter to you and it brings great pleasure.

Coffee is also a great part of my simple pleasure. I love the smell and aroma of the coffee. It makes me feel good. That’s undeniable. I can sit down the whole day in Starbucks having coffee and a book and i will be fine.

 

 

P.S.

So, here’s wishing you all the joy and happiness in this world.

Why We LOVE

The love month is over… but i wanted to share with you some of the reasons why we love….even if it may sound absurd and pathetic; i guess we all went through this …

The “playful you ” says you are in love because…

1. MENTALLY, it made you nuts. You believe that the one you love is the most beautiful and the fairest creature in this universe; the only person blessed on this earth. At some point you will say there are million of fishes in the sea; but all these millions are worm – infested and he is the only “worm – free”, and yet, for all you know, he is not even a fish; he could be a worm.

2. VISUALLY, it made you blind. You can see no one but him anywhere you go. In every garden where flower blooms; even in a tree with its branches reaching majestically for the stars; and even in the silence of the church where everybody’s head is bowed for meditation.

3. EMOTIONALLY, this is WORST. You are empty without him and complete only with him.  Your life finds meaning in his. With him beside you, the rose is redder, the birds chirpier, and God is a very nice bearded old man. When you are with him, one hour is just a second; but when he is away, one hour is almost a year. He might not be really good looking but you believe he is.

4. PHYSICALLY, what love can do.  For some inexplicable reasons his hands are completely different from all the other hands in the world; heaven is in the circle of his hands, and for all you know, it is insanity.

The “serious you ” says you are in love because…

1. Sometimes it seems like you can read each others mind, like when he calls you just as you were thinking of him, or when he knows what you’re going to say before you even say it.

2. You feel he understands you in a way no one else has and your love for him just grows stronger the more you know about him

3. You have been very honest with him reveling those things you haven’t been able to tell anyone else. You’ve always wanted to talk to someone else about how you feel yet, somehow you know, you don’t need any words at all to tell him how much you love him. P.S. here’s wishing you all that you find your one true love…

Sentiment

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thinking about you doesn’t make it sensible.

frustrating…

disappointing…

wanting to hold you is everything,

sharing stories with you is something.

wonderful…

marvelous….

wishing to kiss you is magical,

holding you in my arms is whimsical.

imagining…

dreaming….

counting the days without you is unbearable,

hoping you’d be with me is undeniable.

missing you…

loving you…..

P.S.

After glow

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This is for all those who have loved and lost;loved and forsaken; loved and betrayed; …always keep a smile in your face and in your heart, no matter how much it hurts today….a new beginning will come to you someday…very soon

Some things in life are worth holding on and some need letting go. One is faced with so many options but there are times that not even one is worth the choice. you simply must give up or die holding on and lose it at all…or live hating for wanting more….

No, not yet…

let your eyes speak

of loses in bloom

remind me once more

of the love we shared

where fiery choir

sang our song

at the blazing sun.

Shed no more tears, not yet

the midnight air

still whispers your name

and deep from the abyss

echoes my grief

make me remember the picture

we make out of the crowds

hold my hand

and never let go.

sing no sad son, not yet

or i’ll behold in your lids

hung the sweet tears of agony

rather paint me visions

of thousand smiles in your lips

and upon your lips…

vision of night will fade away.

kiss me not yet, not yet…

lest you’ll awaken a silent sea

and its faint murmuring

turn to turbulent desapir

but surely when you pass away

i’ll grasp the air

and kiss the same

that kissed you.

dry your tears, this time…

let not your tears

warm my icy tomb

and when light fades

softly from your eyes

take my hands once more

and into the clouds i’ll fly

with you eternally…

Tears run down my eyes. I would never fight back the longing in my heart. I promise. I will be for you, I promise I will… in time...

The Vikings

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They say the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach…and the way to a friend’s heart is over an “eat all you can” treat.

Last week my husband and i got to spend some wonderful moment with a very dear college friend. He was able to make an advance booking in a restaurant, I initially thought is nothing but the usual.

I was wrong. ..

We went to a restaurant called Vikings. It is basically an “eat all you can” restaurant. At the first thought. . I was worried. .I am not a big eater…I don’t eat anything outside my comfort zone…and with the over towering price it told myself I should eat a lot…otherwise

i would regret paying it.

But as i took a tour of the restaurant, it made me reconsider my initial inhibitions though.

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If you are a fun of Japanese cuisine well…you’ll fall in love with the sight alone..I did. For some weird reasons i am not a lover of raw foods…but i just can;t take my eyes off these things. They look so good…an i am actually thinking if they taste just as good as well.

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I love pizza … and my oh my..They got the most delicious four cheese pizza I have ever tried..

If not for the fact that we paid an outrageous amount for this dinner i would settled myself with the pizza alone.

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The thought of eating everything is outrageous. ..what’s more with the thought of having to drink all sorts of juices, teas, shakes….i am a “one flavor drink” type of person but that night i can’t even remember if i did try it all.

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Who can ever resist these sweet temptations?. ..It was one of those moments when you’d wanna forget your blood sugar..your diet. ..and simply indulge…

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If you’re a meat lover…then you’ll enjoy it here..

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If you’re a seafood fan…then by all means you’ll enjoy their grill station..You get to choose by yourself and they grill it as you wait.

I regret it a little though because i got to notice it towards the end of our dinner when i was really filed – up.

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And this is the best part I suppose. …the chocolate fountain…why the best part? Old and young alike were lining up to take a dip of this adorable sight of dripping chocolates..never mind if it’s deliciously sweet or not..the thought alone transports as back when we were young and carefree…when you would just wanna grab a mallows topped with chocolates..walk around…hop in hop out..singing…

I was tempted to ask why it was named “vikings”..

But as we culminate our dinner. ..I thought well maybe because vikings as we know them are big eaters…they always enjoy festivities top with wide array of food..and that exactly what we experienced…massive foods ….

It is wonderful to remember too that unlike any other “eat all you can” restaurants; when  quality is sometimes being compromised. .the vikings was different though. ..everything tastes sooooo good…I had a full stomach then… it is also good to note that it has maintained a certain “class” which we do not see or experience in any other restaurants with similar themes.

I say…it is a “must comeback ” place for me…

P.S. Vikings is located in SM Megamall in Manila so if guys are around better check it out.

Cheesecake

Most people say…” I am not good at words”…or …”I can’t write, I wasn’t born with it”…or some may even say..”It’s for the weird and unhappy”…

The truth is…I am not also good at words when I started writing… I believe I also am wasn’t born with it..and seriously, I also at some point believed that it is indeed for the weird and unhappy…

But come on…look at me…I am not weird, but I write… I am happy, but I write still…

a proof that i am not weird...i am happy..alone
a proof that I am not weird… I am happy..alone

What I am trying to say is that…writing can bring a lot of good than bad to someone who tries it…

All you need to do is a little inspiration to kick off that “Shakespeare” in you. Really..forget about the technicalities of writing first…write down what inspires you today…what you think of it…and why do you think it inspires you…

Speaking of inspiration, I bumped at an old friend yesterday while waiting for my daughter. We were talking about a particular coffee shop in our place and how they serve really delicious………………………………..we both screamed CHEESECAKE!!!….students passing by looked at us with both amusement and irritation..amusement maybe because;  two middle-aged people looking cool screaming over cheesecake and/or two middle-aged people looking ridiculously stupid screaming over cheesecake.

Anyways. I actually did not care much about their reaction. I care about the cheesecake. So I thought I needed to grab a cheesecake while I wait..so..off I went to the coffee shop which serves the best cheesecake in town…

While I savor each bite…a “spark” came up….and of course, if you know me, you can guess by now that a “spark” could mean another inspiration to write on…

So here’s for you and for my ……..

 

CHEESECAKE

sweet savory choice;

pressing through my voice,

delicately scented, interestingly decorated,

slowly melting, suddenly agitated.

turning one more time a such;

to nibble, to masticate and munch.

fancy dark-colored fluid;

dripping slowly as I am fascinated.

for each bite, I sense, the poignant

the boundless pungent flavor of sentiment

the lone witness of my desire

for your sweet gentle flavor.

delectable but restrained,

mouthwatering I am sure indeed.

bringing endless sensation and excruciation

that once delicate and gentle vibration

is surely about to be laid over

to savor your flavor once more.

Forever you will be

my sweet, delectable cheesecake.

P.S

See I told you guys… it isn’t that difficult after all..so to Robin, wherever you are, whatever your doing…check it out…that might be just the “spark” you needed…

 

Good Luck!!!.. another cheesecake for me now…

 

What Makes a Good Writer?

What makes a good writer? (Or rather what makes an outstanding writer?)

It has been said and argued many times that writers are born; they are not made (or is it the other way around?)…

One has to be born with a gift of words to become a good writer….one has to acquire certain skills to become a good writer..it’s not enough that you were born with the gift of words…

Confusing …right?

It is indeed …most especially if you wanted to kick off writing…

So for those who wanted to write but don’t know how…or even for those who are writing but can’t find a “spark” in their work..here is something that would be of great help.

 

What makes a good writer?

1. Artistry

This appeals to our sense of beauty. A person is said to be artistic if he knows how to appreciate something beautiful.

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Do you have the skills to see the difference between what is beautiful and what is not? Or are you that somebody who just settle for what most believe to be beautiful? To write is to see the beauty that others don’t see…to write is to feel the gentleness and tenderness over what is piercing and plangent…to write is to hear the tranquility over hurly-burly…to write is to have a pleasing taste in the presence of bitterness…to write is to smell the aroma over malodor.

 

2. Intellectual value

A written work stimulates thoughts. It makes our mental life rich by making us realize the different fundamental truths about life and human nature.

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Do you have the skills to pose thought-provoking ideas or notions? Or can you awaken the sleeping minds of those who don’t seem to care? To write is to amp up…brace ..energize…enliven…invigorate..animate…vitalize and vivify the minds and thoughts of those who don’t seem to care at all.

3. Suggestiveness

This is the emotional aspect of any written material this quality moves us deeply and stirs our imagination to work above and beyond the level of ordinary life and experience.

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Do you have the capacity to create a conscious mental reaction over a strong feeling of love, anger, joy, hate, or fear? To write is make arouse pain, pleasure, attraction, or repulsion.

4. Spiritual value

A written material puts our spirit high by bringing out the understanding of moral values which leads us to become better people. It inspires us to acquire these values which we will cherish or put into practice, thus bringing closer to our Maker.

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Do you have the power to make someone believe with strong conviction? To write is to stir up devotion..piety…

5. Permanence

It can endure the test of time. It can be read over and over again as each reading gives fresh enjoyment.

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Do you have the skills to create a brand – new and pristine ideas that could withstand the test of time? To write is to stand up against time…

6. Universality

It observes no limits. It appeals to all, anytime, anywhere because it deals with the basic feelings of people, fundamental truths, and universal conditions.

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Do you have the cleverness to produce what is true to all, at all times in all places? To write is to include or cover all or a whole collectively or distributively without limit or exception.

7. Style

This is the unique way in which the writer views life, forms his/her ideas, and expresses them. Great works are marked by their lasting substances and by their distinctive styles.

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Do you have the power to be different…to be unique? To write is to be fashionable and elegant in a distinctively unique way.

 

quivering voice torn into pieces

jammed words dashingly sealed;

tongue-tied feelings suppressed…

yet a power uproars…

whispered unto thyself…

acclaimed thy heart..longing to blaze,

conformed thy faith, declared thy attempt…

to bestow equity thy affectionate feeling…

to love forever,…EVEN!