“There is something truly magical about the way a little girl turns into her mother”-Chicken Soup for the Soul
Indeed it is true. My eldest daughter is now in college student. My two other daughters are now in high school..that leaves me with one little girl in elementary.
We have heard mothers complaining about how their children changed when they went to college or even high school…about how they have become less of a “sweet little kid”…about how they have forgotten birthdays, anniversaries and other important family celebrations…about how they have stopped making personalized cards….about how they simply CHANGED…
I say I am one lucky mom…why? My daughters may have grown up…they may have become big girls…but they never changed. .they are still my sweet, kind, and thoughtful little girls…
Here’s what my grown-up girls prepared for me on mother’s day.
This is what makes motherhood oh so rewarding.
1. They made me feel soooo beautiful
Well. ..this is the “cartoon” version of myself…as perceived by my daughters.
2. I know they love me despite my limitations
3. They know I am one tough mother, but at the same time they recognized my need for a “knight in my shining armor”
4. They always believed in me (they watched the same movies as I did)
5. They know that I am loved by many, but they make sure they love me the most
As my eldest daughter went to college, people began noticing her beauty (by this I mean physical appearance)..it is beginning to scare me that one day soon she will have suitors around…she will have men trying to win her heart over..men who whether I like it or not may only fool her…as I was processing my own fear, I realized that every mom should talk to their daughters, who, in return should open their hearts and trust their moms and talk about anything that might be of great concern in the future. Because as we all know (men may react)…. there are really mean men around…
so I listed down some possible hints that may be of help in identifying a potential abuser:
1. he isolates you from your friends or even family
2. he monopolizes your time, activities, and behavior
3. he is extremely jealous or possessive
4. he has an explosive temper (take note: BOYS WHO VENT THEIR ANGER BY PUNCHING ARE DANGEROUS; OR IF A BOY FEELS A SENSE OF RELIEF AFTER EXPLODING, better be careful)
5. he doesn’t take responsibility for his own actions (always blames others)
6. he is a control freak (need to explain more? I don’t think so)
7. he takes drugs and uses alcohols
8. he has a history of abuse in his family (well… with all due respect..this is true…a battered son may end up battering his own partner someday..)
the best possible way to stay away from this kind of situation is for girls to CONDUCT THEMSELVES IN A DIGNIFIED MANNER ….after all… you get what you deserve…