How to Rise After Each Fall

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      I AM

darkness against light,
Trouble over affection,
Chaos under an order,
            I am in pain.

Noise in silence,
Blinded with sight,
Trembled though steady,
             I am in agony.

Cried in laughter,
Screamed through heard,
Fallen while standing,
              I am in disguise.

Laughed in sorrow,
Smiled over tears,
Hoped in despair,
               I am in love.

 

      How many times have we questioned ourselves about our abilities to rise above failures? Countless times I suppose.
I have been through difficult times myself too. And I must say I have risen gracefully after each fall.

How did I ever make it?

1. Admit you mess up

Yes, you read it right. One of the keys to moving on is the admission of one’s mistake. There are times when we would say “I know I am wrong”.. but at times we only say that without even realizing what indeed have we done wrong. We say we are wrong… on a general note. What is important is we know we are wrong in a more specific way. Accept the specific act/manner/ task that we have been wronged. In this way, we would be able to find a specific solution for that. The thing is: admission of specific mistakes will merit a specific solution. We have the ability to know we are wrong but we cannot understand why we have been wronged.

2. Develop the power to discern

If we have the ability or power to discern we would be able to see and understand people, things, or situations clearly and intelligently. This makes moving on easily. I am so lucky because my mother has taught me to develop this ability even as a child. And as I grow up my ability to discern has intensified.

3. Talk to the right people

By talking to the right people I mean specifically to our parents, unless otherwise, you don’t have one, then talk to someone you deemed more experienced and matured than you are. As I teenager my parents would always remind me to open up with them or discuss with them any concerns I have because no one will give me better insights than they are. They are my parents thus they love me so there is nothing that they would say would jeopardize me as a teener. And even when I was a parent myself too, I still would run to them for encouragement or clarification, and it would as always work.

4. Have the attitude of positive expectancy

Say, it will be better… I will make it… I know I can…make this as your mantra. Expect something good will happen every day or even after you have messed up.

5. Learn to filter suggestions and recomendations

As a general rule listen to positive information only. Learn to recognize a good suggestion over the worst one. Refuse to worry over circumstances beyond your control. Don’t allow yourself to be entangled over emotional suggestions that will only hinder us from taking control of ourselves.