Yasmin

Today’s story is from my first book “After – Rain Skies” available via KOBO.COm

The thing about not giving back the pain you received, though, was, if you didn’t have a place to put it, you just carried it around with you.

Yasmin had nowhere to put all the guilt and paranoia she harbored by herself as a child growing up in a house where every day was a fight that felt like her fault, so she left it when she was 19, because she’d reached the limit of what pain she could carry and if she had to endure any more, the pressure would have ended her.

Her grandparents sent her to school, where she Yasmin harnessed her feelings and turned them into the motivation to survive. Constantly, she felt afraid that her father would come find her, and make her pay for ever believing she deserved a better life.

But the fear only made her run faster, and work harder, and aim to get as far away from where she used to be as possible. The fear propelled her to excellence. She got a bachelor’s degree, then a master’s, then a doctorate.

She suffered the occasional meltdown like everybody else, but lived to be 65, and successful, and carried within her the pride of having enough space in her heart to carry, beside the old pains, love and courage and integrity.

Women In The Outbreak Of A Global Pandemic (Part 2 – IWD 2021)

The Perak Women for Women Society has played a vital role in shaping and molding the well-being of girls and women around Perak ( and in as far as their advocacy can reach). With the outbreak of a global pandemic, PWW once again proved to the people of Perak (Malaysia), that they are truly capable of helping women not only in terms of their struggles and battles but even when they combat the effects of Covid – 19.

PWW has made several remarkable and successful projects over the years to help victims of abuse and violence.

PWW is composed of amazing women who devoted their time and services for free to serve and help.

With Covid – 19, PWW launched its newest project last August 2020 called the “Food Pantry program”,”, which aimed to provide necessities to families affected by the outbreak of a global pandemic. PWW co-founder Yip Siew Keen said the organization had been deluged with calls from the people asking for help following the MCO.

They formed a committee, led by their president Sumathi Sivamany.
It started with perishable food, dry food, and toiletries. Until donations came pouring in that they slowly made additional items in the food pantry.
As long as there are donations, the program, will continue. PWW welcomes the donation of items such as rice, biscuits, bread, spices, cooking oil, milk powder, and dried goods.
The PWW shop is located at Market Street in Ipoh. For details, contact PWW at 011-65569715.

Amidst COVID – 19, PWW stood still, stronger as ever.

PWW is just an example of empowered women, facing Covid – 19 bravely.

As we celebrate Women’s Day, let us take a moment to salute the courageous women in our lives; our mothers, our sisters, our friends, our cousins, our aunts, our relatives, our lady government officials, and with Covid – 19, a double salute to our brave women frontliners – doctors, nurses, medical staff and our police officers.

How have women coped so far?

With a surge in the number of domestic violence cases and other forms of violence on women during the lockdown, women around the world are compelled to come up with the necessary guidelines to survive the abuse of any form.

Victims of abuse typically go through life feeling isolated, powerless, and hopeless. Victims need to know that they may be suffering through undue violence, but they are not alone. There are various ways that a victim can reach out for support and seek help, and their answer for relief is very near.

The immediate and first response that is always suggested to women experiencing abuse in their homes, or their workplace, or even individual instances of assault or abuse is to REPORT IT to the concerned authorities. While this is a difficult step to take, in the scenario that abuse is threatening the safety, security and is dangerous to the life of the women and children involved- the highest recommendation is to report the abuse.

Staying healthy amidst the lockdown is also another great concern, and it does not only mean having a gym membership. Women can think about some ways; they can adopt to help themselves feel rejuvenated, fresh, and calm.

They can follow a healthy diet, r, read the FACTS of COVID-19 and remain safe at this time.

They can also start and practice meditation and mindfulness to move their body, staying active helps to refocus their body and mind.

Women can also find ways to be connected and in touch with their friends, relatives, and everyone else outside their homes. Connection with others is essential to their well-being.

Many of them are feeling the effects of social distancing. They can list people who they can call, text, video chat, or write now and then. They can use technology like WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, or other video calling platforms. This can give them face-to-face time and can help maintain or strengthen relationships.

Together, we can!!!

Happy International Women’s Day 2021!!!

(photos from PWW FB page)

#ChoosetoChallenge

#IWD2021

Let Your Voice Be Heard

Aisha was the wife of a man who disappeared not long after their marriage. In his place came a husband who thought always hurting the woman he had promised to care for was the best way to be one.

By the time they had a son, Aisha had to give up waiting for the person she fell in love with to come back. She had to set aside the nightmare of a possibility that that person might never even have existed because she had an 18-month old infant who had just been thrown by his father into a rose bush and who didn’t know how to defend himself.

For Aisha, enough was enough. For the safety of her baby, just a divorce would not be enough. There had to be no contact between the innocent and the guilty. Violence was a choice her husband continued to make, and she was taking a stand to prevent any more of it.

Courts, unfortunately, don’t always make this easy.  She needed the assistance of a brilliant lawyer to keep social workers from making her share her son’s life with a parent who kept trying to ruin it, the testimony of the family physician to prove there was actually abuse, and resilience that she was slowly running out of to keep going.

The months of having no one believe her did not make it easy, but there were good people along the way too. And, by Christmas, with their help, Aisha had full custody of her son and a well-earned chance at a kinder life for them both.

Women have the right to live free from violence.

Let your voice be heard

Read more true and inspiring stories of abuse and violence in my book “After Rain Skies” available via KOBO.COM

Women In The Outbreak Of A Global Pandemic (Part 1)

be magnificent

be beautiful

be bold

like the Taj Mahal

love

live

longer, forever

like the Taj Mahal

inspire

encourage

motivate, persuade

like the Taj Mahal

The United Nation’s acknowledge and celebrate the role of women and girls around the world in creating a more equal future and recovery from the COVID-19 pandemic.

Most health care workers, caregivers, community organizers are composed of women. The pandemic is yet again another avenue in which the world sees the importance of women in combating the outbreak of a global pandemic. 

Once again, women have proven to the world that they are strong, resilient, and dependable.

According to the United Nations “International Women’s Day is a time to reflect on progress made, to call for change and to celebrate acts of courage and determination by ordinary women, who have played an extraordinary role in the history of their countries and communities.

The world has made unprecedented advances, but no country has achieved gender equality.”

We can always play our part.

The pandemic is not just a health issue. It impacted our societies and economies, and it is an undeniable fact that women are at the heart of care and response efforts underway. 

Homes have become offices, classrooms, and meeting places – and mothers, are the heart of it all. 

It has been a year since the pandemic happened and for the past year, the home has become the center of the growth and development of every child, every human being. Unlike pre-pandemic days, children’s well-being can be attributed to home, school, and its immediate environment. With the outbreak of the pandemic, the home has taken that responsibility alone. responsibility alone. And for that, every family member must create an ambiance, conducive to learning, working, and virtual interaction without compromising the essence of a real home.

for Sadje’s WDY

for Kate’s Friday – Fun

In Memory

Kayla would have been just a manufactured memory to her family, friends, and children, had she not taken the courage to walk away from her abusive husband.

 
She found out she could leave only after he tried to kill her.


Let there be no more Kayla, let every woman live a life they deserve.

 
Together let us join the rest of the world in celebrating the hero in every woman, this MARCH 2021


Yes! There’s no place for complacency.

 
Sadly though none of us will probably witness the end of the culture of violence in our lifetimes, and nor likely will many of our children.

 
But, we can all play a part.


Women have the right to live free from violence.

Let your voice be heard

 Read more true and inspiring stories of abuse and violence in my book “After Rain Skies” (available via KOBO.COM)


How Much More?

you lost your voice

in the roaring thunder

of his growing ego

as you lost your consciousness

under his vicious hands.

how much more of that sound do you need to bear,

deaf in the truth of torture and agony?

you lost your mind

with every scornful tone

from the blast

of his nasty outrage

and abomination.

how much more of the mockery do you need to take,

to run away and seek help?

you lost your glow

for every word

he utters is a knife

that cuts off the very essence

of your being

how much more of that smile will you hold,

to unfold the truth that you are suffering silently?

P.S

A poem included in my book “After Rain Skies”. I cannot think of any other piece fitted to the photo of Sadje for this week’s WDY, but this one. https://lifeafter50forwomen.com/2020/11/16/what-do-you-see-56-16-november-2020/

The agony, the pain, the hurt and the hopelessness of an abused woman is so evident … so much so that it transcends beyond the photograph.

Let this be a reminder … a reminder to take part and help stop the culture of abuse and violence.